What should I do? I have been faithful the entire time we were together.I've done nothing at all.
2007-01-10 12:34:58 · 15 answers · asked by Diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it could be something within him-- he might have trust issues. you should ask him why he doesn't trust you. get to the bottom of it.
2007-01-10 12:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not done anything for him to believe this way, then the problem is with him not you. Maybe he has been hurt in the past and now is unable to easily trust. Thus, if you are on the phone or email\chat with other makes, while this may seem harmless to you as they are only friends. To him it smacks of cheating. The best way to deal with this is ask him why he does not trust you. What actions or reasons have you given him to not trust you. If he is jumping to conclusions and assuming things, then you have a long road. It is not a behaviour that will change overnight. You will have to decide if it is worth it, or if you are better off finding someone that trust's you.
2007-01-10 20:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Briandking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone that I loved and wanted to be with told me that they didn't trust me...I would have asked why. Did they think you have not been faithful? If this was the case, again...why? What has given them this conclusion? Since you have been faithful, you can prove--without a doubt that you have, in fact, been faithful to them--because, if you can't 'prove' due to guessing on their part---they are really not not trusting you, but rather they are not allowing themselves to trust you. It is not your fault. If this is the case, and they don't want to trust you...then it is time for you to move on. Seriously. You cannot 'make' a person trust you...they have to be willing to give trust to you. This is the 'risk' we all take within relationships. Some have been so burned in the past, it is hard for them to give over trust once again. If they cannot bring themselves to do this now, they may never. And, you need to find someone to give your trust to, who will give you their trust in return.
You could try to stay in this relationship, and go with what it is...but, if the person has pointedly told you that they don't trust you (verbally conveying no trust)--and they cannot give you a definitive reason why, to where you can rebut, then either the person doesn't really want a relationship with you or it will never be a healthy and equally reciprocal relationship for you. I would definitely discuss this with this person.
2007-01-10 20:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason he said this? Did you do something to make him feel that way? That's the first thing you need to find out.
Second, is he just a person that finds it very difficult to trust people, any people. Some people have been battered about a bit in their lives and therefore find it difficult to place trust in others.
How long have you known this person? if you have only known them for a short period of time, then of course there are going to be trust issues. Trust does not grow on trees, but is forged over time. One has to reach a certain level of comfort with another person before they can say "I trust you".
And there are varying levels of trust, while I might trust someone to return a pen, I might not trust that same person with the key to my car.
2007-01-10 21:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you didn't do anything wrong then let him think like that are leave him because it might be something going on with him and if he have problems then you need to leave him hanging with his problems. But if you really like him sit him down and have a long talk with him to see with the problem is and what makes him think this way. If you don't ask then you wont never know with is wrong. If he say he had someone in the past to do him wrong then if you really like this guy you let him know that you won't do what the other girl did too have him feeling this way.
2007-01-10 20:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding something. The best way for a person to hide an indiscretion is to accuse their partner of the same offense. It may be time for you to do some snooping.
Hope i'm wrong.
2007-01-10 20:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys will accuse you of something that they did, thinking that it will take the focus off them. Don't fall for it. Get rid of him. There are many (better) fish in the sea that will respect and trust you.
2007-01-10 20:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be an issue that the other person has that has nothing to do with you. Bad past relationships with lovers or even family may have made him mistrustful.
Talk about i with him.
2007-01-10 20:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and allways tell the truth and ask him why he doesnt want to put his trust in you if he says it beacouse something you have done find out what it is and prove he has no reason to be jealous if its beacouse of somebody he dated in his past that he just finds it hard to trust new women then prove to him your not gonna do him wrong
2007-01-10 20:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by travis j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i agree with the above person....u shud talk it up to him and discuss as to why he thinks tht way ......if he is not ready to share then is no point in luving him i guess bcos trust n respect r very imp in a relationship
2007-01-10 20:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by imperishable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋