Ok, it started off when my dad called the cops saying that my mom hit him, well there was no evidence of this and they still have to go to court for this. anyways my mom ended up having to live with my grandma, and a restraining order saying she cant call here or come to the house, and once in awhile she gives us some money. It wasnt child support cos my parents didnt bother going to court cos my mom gave us money anyways. well my mom wanted my dad to jus go to court and get her to end up paying child support but my dad decided he will make her and make us not able to call her or see her, earlier today when i was talking to her on the phone he made me hang up, and im jus curious if i do see my mom will that get my mom in any kind of trouble?
2007-01-10 12:26:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanx alot for the advice so far, and i been recieving alot of question about the restraining order, so this is an anwser that may give u guys a better understanding. Well my dad found out my mom was cheating on him, and well my mom always wanted a divorce with him anyways, and so my dad freaked and my mom says he made it up how she hit him, and my dad says she did hit him, i was in my room when this was all happening and all i heard was my mom screaming, i didnt see any marks on my dads arm cos she hit him with a phone says my dad. So i hope this helps a bit more =) thanx for the advice again so far, keep it up!
2007-01-10 13:09:28 · update #1
Hon, if you saw your father abusing your mother, not allowing you to call her or some other material fact (like his lies in the police report) that is something that YOU CAN, as a 14 year old, speak up about ...
IF you know when your father did file the police report against your mom that he lied, you can definitely GO to the police and say that you were there, and that is NOT the truth .. and make sure that the POLICE know this ...
I would also be concerned about the fact that he is trying to STOP you seeing your other parent -- in this case it sounds physical ... that also is NOT quite good, and you can report this to the Police as well. (especially if you feel threatened or in danger).
PLEASE Talk to a trusted adult about this -- they can decide when they hear all the events that are happening in your life -- whether it is at your SCHOOL or the Church or somewhere, but you need to have someone that will protect you listen to you.
I can say this -- your dad is doing this to HURT YOUR MOTHER (and you in the process). IF he continues on this way, you will ALWAYS hate him for it, and it will be something that you can NEVER forgive him for over his remaining lifetime.
2007-01-10 12:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awkward for you because you may not know all of what led up to the situation.
Do you think there is a good reason for the restraining order? Even if there is a good reason for your mother not being allowed to see you, it may be something that your dad doesn't want to talk to you about because of your age.
IF there is a restraining order against your mom preventing her from contact with you, she can get in trouble if she talks to you. Ask your dad if you can see the order; IF there is one, he has a copy of it. If he won't show you, there probably isn't one.
Is she also restrained from contacting you when you are not home? If not, take advantage of this loophole. Call from school or a friend's house.
If there is no restraining order and a judge has not given your dad full custody, he has no legal grounds to keep your mom away from you.
I suggest talking to the school counselor; this may help you figure out what is going on and how to react to it.
For your sake, the situation really needs to go to court so that a judge can decide the rights and wrongs of the case.
2007-01-10 12:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is dead wrong. Holding either parent from the child is not fair. They will have to live with the choices they are making today. Try to tell your dad how you feel. The split up is not your fault. The 2 grownups need legal help and they should be here instead of you. They are the ones who started this child play. Be patient and try talking. If it doesn't help, as time passes, try again. After all, you are old enough to speak up in the court system as to what you want. That day may come if they don't grow up. Neither parent will get in trouble for talking to you. If they go to court, then the judge will tell them they have to share. One parent or the other NEEDS to get this to court. You will then have your freedom to make your choices.
2007-01-10 12:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by carol jean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad played this game when I was in 3rd grade! Then, he would tell me over and over like every day, my mom would go to jail if she picked me up. I found out that the whole entire time, my mom had custody. I left in the summer right before 8 grade. I really hate that man.still to this day and I'm 25.
Tell your mom to hire a lawyer, he can't keep you from her for ever. Does she live near by can she show up for lunch at school?You're old enough to decide who you want to live with. He is just doing that to control your mom.
2007-01-10 12:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey I feel for you. I totally agree with what SglMom said. You really need to talk to an adult you trust, is there a teacher or a friend's parent? Seek out the help, your Dad has to realize that if he continues to keep you away from your Mom , you will most likely resent him. I wish you all the luck in the world and I will keep you in my thoughts.
2007-01-10 12:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umless the courts ordered your dad to keep you away from your mom. and also not allow you to talk to her, then your dad has
"NO" right either legally or parentally to keep you from seeing 'or' talking to her.
This is just 'his' way of revenge toward her, but keeping you guys apart and unable to communicate.
If I were you I'd try my best to go with your mom, especially if you
are not happy with your dad and his cruel way of making you suffer for 'their' problems (your parents).
By law, you have 'every' right to be with your mother, unless she has been abusive toward you in the past.
But if you love your mom and understand more of whats 'really' going on and why things happened the way they have, then I'd even go so far as to talk to the police.
A restraining order against your mom does not necesserily
mean it's to prevent her from seeing you too.
This you need to ask your dad about or try finding out for yourself.
I am 'SO' sorry you're having to go through all this dear.
2007-01-10 16:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 15:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you are a minor and if he has a restraining order against her,than yes,she'll get into trouble.
Try to talk to your dad,and tell him how you feel,maybe he'll have a change of heart.
2007-01-10 12:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by carin1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a difficult situation. Hopefully things will cool down in a little while and work out so be patient. Also be kind to both as both are having a rough time now. Ask your dad (not pester) to be able to see her. If not now ask after things settle down. I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-10 12:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by beek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sucks when parents break up i know they never see what youre going throw but hey girl about youre dad the best thing is to talk to him i know sometimes is a little weird talking to parents about situations like this but just try and everything is going to end just fine take care girl
2007-01-10 12:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by moniquita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋