UGH!!! Frustrated. I love my best friend to death. We have been good friends for 3 years. We enjoy all the same things, hiking, biking, climbing...and get along amazingly well. He's a guy, I have a lot of male friends. He has always been super protective of me when it comes to me dating, but in a brotherly way. In fact he has told me on more then one occasion that dating me would be like dating his sister just gross & weird. (this is indirectly because we had an issue where everyone at our church thought we were together because of us hanging out & I feel the same way) Well I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. My friend has been unhappy since we started dating. He's acting like he's jealous. He says he has no problem with my boyfriend & he thinks he's a great guy. But it's defiantly put a wedge in our friendship. Now my boyfriend has broken up with me, and I'm terribly upset, my friend is acting like it's the best day ever. Very happy & flirty with me.
2007-01-10 12:08:26 · 3 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It’s very frustrating to me. My friend knows that I’m not in the mood to be asked out, he knows how frustrating the last week has been for me, especially when I get hit on. He knows I’m hurting, and yet he’s flirting with me, keeps trying to get me to come over so we can hang out. Says things like, ‘Hey baby, it’s okay why don’t you come over you know I can make you feel better…We need to get together, I really, really want to see you. Your so beautiful any guy would want you, you just need to forget about him & move on.’ (My boyfriend broke up with me because he’s in Iraq & he doesn’t think it’s fair for me to be with him when he’s in a dangerous situation. Not because of any other reason. He’s trying to do what’s best for me. He wants us to get back together as soon as he gets home.)
2007-01-10 12:08:42 · update #1
I think that your friend likes you as more than a friend. He is hinting you and is expecting you to respond to those hints. If it is bothering you and you feel that it is to soon then tell him that you have been feeling like he is hitting on you and it is too soon. If he didn't mean the feeling then say cool. Keep it all normal. If you guys do decide to go out then make it clear to him that if it doesn't work out that you guys will remain friends. Good Luck!!
2007-01-10 12:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you bee reading to much into you've sussed hes jealous so are now thinking every thing is a come on?
basically you have to talk to him!
tell him your not ready and that you love him very much, as a friend, but you cant even consider taking it further until you have sorted out whats going on in your own head and heart.
let him know where you stand but make it clear to him that you need him as a friend right now.
if he cant agree to that then tell him he will have to give you a bit more space to deal with your probs.make it very clear you dont want to lose him as a friend, but please talk to the guy you can sort any thing out until you have!
2007-01-10 20:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He fancies you definitely . Think about it
2007-01-10 20:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋