I have two children from my first marriage. Their real father has chosen not to keep contact with them (hasn't seen them for 5 yrs). I have now been in a r'ship with a man for 4 yrs, during this time he has lived with us for 1yr. My youngest was 2 when I began dating my partner, she is now 6yrs old and demanding to know why she can't call him daddy? My older son would like to call him daddy also. I have tried speaking to my partner openly about this, and how much it would mean to all of us if he would let them refer to him as dad. He seems to have hesitations about this, but he also seems to be hesitant when I speak to him about marriage. He appears afraid of commitment. He tells me he would feel uncomfortable if they were to call him dad. I feel that he has been involved with us for long enough, and should feel comfortable by now. Esp if he feels comfortable enough to live with us, to sleep with me, and to say we are a family. Pls give advice if youve been in a similar situation.
2007-01-10 10:58:46 · 2 answers · asked by zara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have been with my partner 10 years he has 2 sons from a previous relationship and 2 with me...we raise all 4 boys together my step sons call me by my name, i wouldn't say no if they asked to call me mom but i agree it would feel weird at first .is it possible he is afraid the biological father will re appear at some point in the future and he will get hurt. or that if you ever separate the children would be hurt. I think he will come around just not right away.
2007-01-10 14:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by scorpia692003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be a good person if the kids want to call him dad. Hes only going to get this chance once wat harm could it do.He needs to reconsider.
2007-01-10 12:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋