My girlfriend has been ingnoring me for 3 weeks. I think its over between us. Her says she still wants to be with me, but her brother wont allow her and thats why she wont talk to me. Should I believe the friend and wait or should listen to my gut feeling and move on.
2007-01-10 10:51:03 · 46 answers · asked by Anthony T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks to you all, I think the problem is me and her brother don't get along. The brother also likes to control who she dates. But Ladies answer this if your boyfriend didn't get along with your brother what would you do?
2007-01-10 12:29:05 · update #1
Anthony, come on. This girl is trying to play u, if she really wanted to talk to you--she would find a way. She's full of it (u couldn't keep romeo from Juliet).
Trust your gut & move on; and three wks. is a long time. I think she has already moved on & probably talking about u to that new guy she is flirting with. Do u honestly think she is not talking to anyone? every woman enjoy the attn. of a man (so, right now she is flirting w/him-if they haven't had their first kiss already).
You sound like a nice guy, & a lot of the times people nice-ness as a weakness. Wake up & smell the aroma, something smells fishy.
2007-01-10 12:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Nedda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gut is often the best instinct anyone could follow. However if you really care about this girl, you might try talking to her parents & brother, personally. Finding out what the problem the "brother" has with you might change his mind about you all together. He may be following his "gut" impression about you. Talking to him would at the least let you knwo exactly where you stand. No matter how much you care about her, if she's made this up becasue she dont have the respect for you to be straight up and honest then you owe it to yourself to go the extra mile and find out. Worst case scenario.... Move on, it sounds like your young and there are many more fish in the sea :)
2007-01-10 12:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by miketoler820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was a good girlfriend she would not ignore you for 3 weeks. You should always go with your gut instinct when it comes to problems like this. If I were you I would have dumped her the first couple days she started to ignore me. Is she really worth waiting for when you can just move on and find someone who wont ignore you?
2007-01-10 12:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always trust your gut. Every time I have ever ignored a gut feeling I have regretted it. Even if she is telling the truth about her brother (this sounds like an excuse to me), do you want a girlfriend whom is that controlled by her sibling? It would be one thing if it were her parents but her brother "not letting her" do something that she wants to do is weird.
2007-01-10 11:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, if you and your girlfriend don't have any kind of communication for 3 weeks, it's not because her brother won't let her, i'll tell you that much. talk to her about what's going on, not your friend. find out what she really feels, and find out why she has been ignoring you for so long. if she makes up some kind of lame excuse like "things have been really crazy lately" or "i have a lot on my mind".. then it means she's done with the relationship.
2007-01-10 12:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gut instinct i think...Its always hard whenyou first comeout of a relationship, but timeis a great healer,and seeing as you've not been talking to her anyway for the last 3 weeks, it should be a tiny bit easier.I'm not telling you what to do, just giving my opinion...
2007-01-10 11:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by ciara_e2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut feelings...something isn't right thats why you feel the way you do, why did her friend have to tell you? why couldn't she?? i'll tell you why b/c she feels guilty and is too coward to tell you that it's over....if her brother is stopping her from talking to you then she would find every way possible to keep in contact with you if she still wanted to be with you...trust me, just face reality she doesnt want to be with you anymore and if i were you i wouldnt bother with it i would just move on...i'm pretty sure your mature enough to not want to play games.
2007-01-10 12:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can not respect you enough to be completely honest with you, though I'll admit the brother thing was a good one!, then move on she will be the one missing out...ugh! Women!...sorry about that you can do much better!
2007-01-10 11:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should ask yourself is, do you really feel a conection between you and your girlfried? If you and her were together, but never really felt anything special between you two, then you should move on, but if you really really liked, or even loved her, then you should talk to her brother or her about why she was ignoring you. If you truely love her, you shouldn't let her go that easily without so reason to why she ignores you.
2007-01-10 11:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok i c soo many ppl are telling u to trust ur gut but right before u do u should talk to her and tell her how u feel and pay extra attention to how she reponds and reacts to wat u say. if it sounds like she doesnt feel like its a big deal then she must not care. so right when ur done talking u can trust ur gut. id she seems like shes always a nice person and she really cares about u then talk to her brother.
2007-01-10 12:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by pinkallycat14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋