How would you respond if?

Question

You got this today after being dumped by the person on the 29th dec ?
'I was going to phone you but can't. What I wanted to say was I know I caused all of this & yes I should have told you to your face and how I wish I did now. I don't want us to fall out, you're a great friend & I've lots of respect for you. It just seems such a shame to throw it all away. I totally blame myself for the upset I caused you and I'm deeply sorry. Please can you text me. I'll understand if you don't want to. I'm sorry, really I am'

Answer 1

looks to me like their other squeeze has dumped them. If you are still interested in this person then play it cool and cautious because it gets easier to dump a person after the first time.

Answer 2

1. Thats not a great message to get, i mean what are you meant to reply with 2. that is quite a long text 3. from the way you are treated not that great friends 4. dont get obsessed 5. think about something in a quiet room for half an hour, dont think about this situation and her, then think about what you should do because really your not going to get much help from people who dont really know you.

Answer 3

BUT HOW DO YOU FEEL YOU HAVE BEEN TREATED?
DO YOU REALLY DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS?
AT TIMES IN LIFE WOMEN BELIEVE THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE BUT ONLY BECAUSE SOMETHING IS LACKING IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
YOU WERE DUMPED A FEW DAYS BEFORE THE NEW YEAR, SHE WANTED SOMETHING DIFFERENT AND HAS NOT FOUND IT.
DO YOU WANT TO BE SECOND BEST?
WILL YOU HAVE THOSE DOUBTS THAT IT MAY HAPPEN AGAIN WHEN SHE FEELS THAT LIFE HAS MORE TO OFFER THAN YOU?
TRY NOT TO RESPOND IN ANGER, NOR THROUGH LOVE AND LONELINESS.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF,BY NOW YOU WILL HAVE BEGUN TO MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE, HAVE YOU NEW DIRECTION AND DO YOU FEEL POSITIVE ABOUT YOUR FUTURE WITHOUT HER?
DO YOU REALLY WANT TO TAKE THAT CHANCE OF BEING HURT AGAIN OR DO YOU WANT TO TRY AND FIND THE GREENER GRASS?

Answer 4

Wouldn't even think twice about it. Obviously this person does not know just how fabulous you are, so be done with it. This sounds like a person feeling guilty that also needs to hang on to something, anything, as long as they can have a situation to feel in control of. Move on, cut your losses, believe me babe, they don't say life is too short for kicks, it really, really is darlin.

Answer 5

Well she just wants to be friends now, right?
You guys might've been friends before the relationship, right? Well, she probably treasures the friendship more than love.
Don't take it as a sign of hope for love.
But uh, I would be grateful if my ex-bf would talk to me like that. At least she's not giving you the cold shoulder.

Answer 6

She is just feeling guilty for dumping you and needs to apologise to make herself feel better, not you! There is no hope in this relationship continuing so you need to decide if you are willing to be just a friend. If not then do not reply and move on

Answer 7

Well it sounds really sincere - was there any event surrounding the breakup that may have pushed her over the edge - or just played with her emotions to cause her to end it?
If you still have feelings for her - then I would geive it another go - she sounds really apologetic and remorseful for what she did.
xx

Answer 8

mate you'll contact her, and she'll rip your heart out every time you see her, talk to her etc. Best to delete it and leave it at that but i bet you don't. You are in for a lot of pain- if i was you I'd try and find a new squeeze as quickly as possible. Its a rebound thing but it will give you confidence.

Answer 9

if it was me I would just reply by putting

and you still say you want to know me because it suits you? im right arent I?

and leave it at that

but pal if you want to chat then mail me

Answer 10

give the person another chance...they truly apologized from what it sounds.