i lied about being divorced and i really love her how do i get her to retrust me when we slept together and our families bonded and our kids bonded please my heart aches
2007-01-10 10:32:34 · 26 answers · asked by marctow2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get her a playstation 3...that would work on me.
2007-01-10 10:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by user name 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you had better understand why you didn't tell her. I mean really why. Did you think she wouldn't understand? Did you doubt you would ever need to explain? When you understand why then you need to decide if these reasons are real barriers to you genuinely moving forward. If you think your reasons are not fundamental problems with the relationship then all you can do is explain them to her. Probably in writing as well as in person or over the phone. You then just have to wait for her judgement. Lets face it, this is a very big issue as it implies you were not serious about the relationship or planned never to be open. If her verdict is negative then all you can do is immediately and apolgetically remove yourself from the situation. Immediately. Let her explain your absence to her children and make no contact for an extended period of time. You can ask her if she would like you to remove yourself for a month or two. At this point you may be more likely to form a genuine relationship with somebody you haven't given such a negative impression to. Treat it as a lesson and move on if that is the case. Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-10 11:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by OB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you divorced at this point? This is a difficult thing to ask of someone regarding this type of lie. Why did you lie? You were being deceptive to get what or who you wanted. You need to realize that that's a biggie. I would say it's going to take a lot of work and it won't happen overnight. Mistrust is a very big hurdle to get over and you're going to have to be patient because only she knows the answer to that question. All women would not look at it the same way. If it were me...not a cats' chance---.
2007-01-10 10:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Calamity Jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been asking myself this because of the fact i will on no account have confidence a guy. How and what can they do to convince me? i've got not got a clue. human beings can exchange into shell stunning after awhile whilst it comprises have confidence. If somebody approached me and asked me this question i might say time. i've got been married 4 circumstances and single for 3 yrs. purely wait and see and supply it time and that i will think of you would be positive. Your speaking some guy or woman that sounds like they choose greater effective love.
2016-10-06 23:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you lied because you are still marrried? Or she never knew you were married? Try telling her you are sorry, and if you are planning on getting a divorce, tell her why you haven't and when you plan on doing it. If she loves you, you will be able to work it out. Heck, my husband is with a woman who is married, and the four of us, he husband, me, her, and my husband are all having to deal with it, and that's alot of mistrust and lies. Of course, its also at least 1.5 divorces too.
2007-01-10 10:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by jiltediwfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
us women tend to hold grudges (as you've probably noticed) but what you need to do, is show her special attention, and you need to explaine to her the situations you were in, and why you lied. You also need to make a commitment not to lie to her anymore, no woman likes to be lied to, so you need to assure her you won't do that again, though only time and honesty will prove this to her, take the time to prove it. What she needs right now is loyalty, and you need to go to great extents to show her loyalty.. Good luck with everything, and I hope everything works out good for you!
♥ kay ♥
2007-01-10 10:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her a real thorough explanation as to why you lied to her about this (I assume because you were afraid she would be mad if she knew the truth?) and then tell her you will do whatever it takes to prove you care and then you need to be 100% honest with her from here on out. Good luck!
2007-01-10 10:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying about something as big as that is a big deal...you won't be able to gain back her trust, and if you do, it won't be for quite some time. you better show how much you appreciate her and treat her like a f*ckin queen..by the way, if you lied about being divorced..does that mean you're still married?
2007-01-10 10:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is something that you shouldnt have done.go to her and say that you lied try to make her belive spend some time with her. say her to give you a chance atleast and promise her that you wil not do this again. say her that you worry for her and kids and make her believe that it was just a joke and nothng else. and you are very sorry for that.
2007-01-10 10:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by sweet girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove to her that u truly love her.fight for her.show her u have changed do whatever it takes. just be smart about u do .what in univision they are giving a soap opera simmalar to your case check it out it is called La Fea Mas Bella it is a spanish show.
2007-01-10 10:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by sad problem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can really do is apologize to her. Tell her you love her and how your families bonded and your children bonded and how your heart aches because she is gone. but most of all you truly have to say sprry and you have to mean it.
2007-01-10 10:46:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋