We have been dating for 7 years and living together for 4. He lied to me about a girl he was seeing and then when I found out (not the first time either), he basically left me to live with her for about three months. We gave up our apartment and now he is living on his own. A month ago he called and said he wanted me back, when I tell him I need time. He is 32 and I am 25. I still talk to him because I love him. He says that I am not gving him a chance and that I never really loved him, b/c I wont even meet him for a drink. But then calls back and says he loves me and then hates me. He keeps talking about other girls to me especially the one he left me for tonight he called and asked for his ex girlfriends phone number. I have had it. I am wrong for not giving him a chance when he rubbed my face in his affair for 3 months? I have not seen him for a month and he says time is up (but he keeps calling) but when he doesn't I cry? Why?
2007-01-10 10:31:08 · 7 answers · asked by wicked1too 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why did you stay with him so long in the first place? Basically, this is the only man you've ever really been with so you probably didn't realize he was such a b@st@rd until he made it blatantly obvious to you.
Hasn't his proclivity towards @$$hole-ness shown up in other areas of your relationship? Take a good long look at what you had together over the past seven years. Did this guy really treat you all that well?
Sweetheart, there are much better men out there, much more deserving of all of your wonderful-ness -- you just don't know it because you've wasted so much time on THIS guy!
The guy had a good thing going. He had a beautiful, sweet girl that he could completely take advantage of. But he screwed it all up by wanting even more. Take advantage of his mistake. Turn your back and head as far as possible in the other direction!
Don't shed a tear for this guy, hon. You are FREE from this self-centered, two-timing jerk. Cry for the years you have lost and the lessons you've learned. Then go out and find a wonderful man who deserves you!
I know you can -- and I'll be cheering you on.
2007-01-10 10:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worthy of your love. Period. There are absolutely more people out there in the world who will not do the things your guy has done to you. He's pathetic and he's giving you drama that you don't need.
I don't know if you feel this way, but don't believe that that guy is the only guy for you out there in the world. He is placing blame on you for the things he has done. Who needs a person like that? Don't you think he's manipulating you?
Look, your tears should be wasted on better things. You're a strong woman who deserves more than him. You don't need to cry anymore. Smile and find a better life without him. All you need to do is be optimistic and live life to the fullest. Remember, you don't need a bastard like him.
2007-01-10 11:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has narcissistic personality traits. He just keeps coming back for the shear pleasure of hurting you over and over. Go to manhaters.com and read about guys like him! Run for the damn hills! He is out to get you sweetie, don't let him. If you take him back you will go through this again and again. Go to that website and meet others like yourself. I have been there. I know what I am talking about. He is an emotional abuser.
2007-01-10 10:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he calls and suggest that you get back together, tell him that his actions have hurt you to the very roots of your sole and IF you forgive him, it'll only be after you have worked it all out, and from your point of view that could be a very very long time. Other than that, don't talk to him anymore and try to get on with your life.
Eventually, for your own health and well being, you have to forgive him, but you don't have to share anymore of your life with him.
2007-01-10 10:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a relationship heading in any place good. You need to move on. My two main things when it comes to love it Trust and Respect.
Look at it this way.
You cant trust him.
And he obviously doesn't respect you, otherwise he wouldn't lie and wouldn't cheat on you then come crawling back.
You say you love him, but think about it, do you? Why?
2007-01-10 11:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to cry. cry all you want, that will pass, but it will never pass if you accept him back into your life and your heart, he will make your life just as painful as it has been since he started cheating on you, so dont even take his phonecalls
2007-01-10 10:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He is toxic and does not care about you.
Take him back and he will continue with his crappy ways.
2007-01-10 10:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋