my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. The past 6 months he's changed his ways. he no longer wants to spend anytime with me cause he says i Bi*tch all the time. He never calls me when he says he's going to. He wants to spend more time with his friends then with me anymore. I'm lucky if he'll even come to my house once a week anymore. He has said to me before that i'm retarded, and idiot, that i need to be on meds. ect.. and when I asked him to come spend some time with me at 11pm. he said it was too late.. But he'll go and take medication to a female friend of his when she asks him to at 2am.. even though he was there for 30sec.. he didn't tell me about it, I found out from someone eles. I trust him with all my heart and I know he wouldn't cheat. but we have been fighting and arguing for a while. so If I don't call him for a while and see if he calls me do you think he'll get the point? I want this to work but I can't do it on my own.. any advice?
2007-01-10 10:21:27 · 13 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's a pretty good idea that way he can get a feel of what he will be missing if he loses u. And it could also serve as a way to show him that u can go without bitching at him...here's a piece of advice, guys do not like nags or to be bitched at and it could be part of the reason he is pulling away. So ease off of him a lil bit if u want him to stick around...a man still needs to feel like a man
2007-01-10 10:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have called you names. Although he did you forgave him pretty quickly. Leave him alone for a short time and see what will happen. Allow him to call you first. Who knows maybe he will miss you enough to call you. When he does don't blow up in his face anymore. Only if he deserves it. As for going to give a "friend" meds at 2am and he wouldn't go out with you is not cool either. I would have blown up in his face, but you didn't and that's ok. However are you sure that he wouldn't cheat on you? If not then he really does want space. Most men do. They need to bond with the boys sort of speak to feel that male bonding they are probably lacking. I hope things work out for you and your boyfriend. Good luck....
2007-01-10 18:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still cared for you the way he used to, he would MAKE time for you, and he wouldn't hesitate to go out of his way for you. It sounds like either you've changed and don't realize it, or he's lost interest in you. I know it's been a long time for you two. Try and talk it out with him and see if you can figure out where the problem is. If he's not interesting in trying to make it work, then you should move on. He's not worth your time and stress anymore. You deserve better.
2007-01-10 19:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ascenscia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think in going a while without calling him you'll find the answer to a lot of your questions. i dont know if he'll "get the point" because with you nagging him now he still doesnt get the point. lets say you go 2-3 days without calling, first of all any man wants to hear his girls voice every day..so if he wants you he will call you. even if its to pretend like hes mad that you havent called him. know in your head he's really calling b/c he needs you. if he doesnt call then it doesnt matter to him, and in that case around 7pm on that third day call your lady-friends and tell them ya'll are hittin' the town. Simple as that babe.
2007-01-10 18:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by king.8307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in truth i think you should ask him how he feels about you. from my perspective i dont think he still likes you. what kind of guy is he to call his girlfriend "retarded and idiot and that you need to be on meds ?!!" you should take some time out. first dont call him and if after 4days if hasnt called you then call him and tell him how you feel about this whole situation. good luck !!! :)
2007-01-10 18:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bruno S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does youre gut tell you? If he would go to a "friends" house (doesn't matter how long) and not you're house (you being his girl) then there is a problem right there....
I think you should bring it up, see how he reacts and you'll know what to do.
Good luck!
2007-01-10 18:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Calling him never again would be a good idea since he has no respect for you.
Why would you want a miserable relationship where a guy isn't into you to work out?
Fix your self esteem.
2007-01-10 18:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you do anything unimpressive? i mean after so long together, everyone may get ab it 'too normal'. boring may be the right word.
is he generally a rude guy or developed those f word after stay with you?
i know you care about him, why don't you sit down and talk to him? it should work out now, don't leave it too long. good luck.
2007-01-10 18:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he lost interest on you. Time to find a new guy. If he doesntr call why bother play games of you not calling .. just forget about it.
2007-01-10 18:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him anymore period. He is being a major jerk and I would not trust him. I don't know why you don't think he won't cheat b/c he sounds very suspicious to me.
2007-01-10 18:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋