legally is there anyway I dont like small kids and im too young to be a dad. I also am in the military and im afaird that my kid wont look as white as i want him to be.
2007-01-10 10:03:57 · 32 answers · asked by america is the greatest 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you can't
2007-01-10 12:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ariamay 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No there is no way to force her into an abortion.
I'm sorry you feel the way you do and I hope you change your mind because you made this choice and now it will affect 3 people's lives (more if both of you have family).
The only thing I could suggest is try and talk to her reasonably about giving the child up for adoption. If the two of you young, the child deserves to have parents who want and love it. Tell her your fears of being a father, tell her you don't feel you can be a good father (that being white bull crap needs to go out the window if you want to talk to her reasonably, cause that's just nonsense) and let her know that there are so many people out there who are deserving of a child that can't have them and can take better care of it than the two of you can (if you truly feel this to be factual). There are open adoptions where she can still have contact with the adoptive parents so she can keep track of her child and it's progress growing up.
Good luck to you, again, I hope you change your mind. Your child deserves a better future than what you're trying to give it right now.
OH, this terminating your parental rights as I see above, in most states CANNOT be done unless there is someone out there who takes over for you as guardian. Most states do not allow this because then they are responsibe for the child if the woman can't take care of it by food stamps, and other welfare means. Why would they put themselves in that position, they didn't get her pregnant.
2007-01-10 10:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can she force you to do anything with your body? NO your out of luck, these are the consequences of having sex, period. There is no 100% birth control method other than abstinence.
I do not know what being in the military has to do with anything, nor the racial comment you made. And all kids start off small....
You need to own up to your financial obligation, luckily even if you won't the military will make sure you make child support payments, surepay will set up an allotment. You will qualify for BAQ even if you live in the dorms, because you have a dependent.
You can't force her to have an abortion period. There is no legal way to do this. Own up to your responsibility not saying you have to marry her, or even get back with her. Pehaps next time you decide to have sex you will think about the fact this person could end being the mother of your child.
2007-01-10 13:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't legally force her to have an abortion. I don't know much about your situation but I would just plainly ask. The laws are on her side. Some women prey on men (younger - less experienced) in the military. They look at it as a way to get out of their environment (marriage/child-support).
Whether or not she does have the child, I would try to remember to protect yourself at all times. You don't know who you can trust sometimes when you are not as "worldly" as some other people.
If she does have the child don't look at it as the end of the world. Children can provide you with direction and aid you in becoming the driving force to meet your goals and set new ones.
2007-01-10 10:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What kind of a man are you? Maybe you're not. If you are not ready to have a kid you should have not been having sex in the first place, or be smart about it and used some sort of protection. As far as forcing her to have an abortion it is her decision not yours, so deal with it.
2007-01-10 10:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by girlieGIRL 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it truly is sweet to understand there is adult men accessible who might want to step up and be a father. regrettably i don't believe of you'd be very effectual in doing this. in case your ex extremely wanted to get an abortion then i'll't see techniques to offer up her. you are able to attempt to flow by way of the criminal device yet i have by no ability heard of a case the position the guy become waiting to "rigidity" the female to have his toddler.
2016-12-28 15:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by purgason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want kids, well, you shouldn't have had sex in the first place, but that's too late for that now. there is a way you can give up your parental rights, that means you have no ties with the baby. I'm not sure how to do that though.
2007-01-10 10:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by SVU fan for life 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ok, that is just ignorant. I really hope in the future when you ask such questions you do not mention you're in the military, if you really are. It makes those of us who actually learned responsibility and did our duty while in the military look bad. If you really are in the military, you need to seriously grow up. Also, are you REALLY an American as your name suggests? Because if you are, please go somewhere else. If you are not and are asking these questions to make Americans look like racist irresponsible jerks, then just stop. Thank you.
2007-01-10 12:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Tigregrrl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SORRY. There is no way to legally force a person to have an abortion. You sound like a real jerk anyway. Sounds like you are going to have to be a man and take responsibility for your child. It takes two to tango.
2007-01-10 10:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by mktk401 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you are a A** Hole and I am sorry you decided to have sex with her and now you are not man enough to handle to consequences!! Being in the military has done nothing to help you grow up....it called a condom and make sure she is on B/C!! There is nothing you can do but see what decision she makes. I hope she gets you for every penny you are worth!!
2007-01-10 10:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, you rolled the dice, now you pay the price.
That baby is hers under the law and the only say you have about it is signing the child support checks. You won't even have a say in how big those checks will be.
2007-01-10 10:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋