My 12 year old friend who is of average weight was told by her crush that she is fat and now I think she's bulimic! This is all that guy's fault. I mean, she isn't even fat! This just seriously upsets me. Plus, I'm older than her so it's not like I'm little or anything. I've heard a lot of stuff about anorexics and bulimics and I'm a PEER LEADER! Just, why are guys like this? They tell us they don't want us eating rice cakes, but if we eat a hamburger, they freak? What the h3ll!?
Thanks,
What's your oppinion?
P.S.-In one magazine, they talked about how MaryKate is too skinny and ON THE NEXT PAGE commented on Britney's weight. It seems as if they want us to be too skinny or fat or something. uhg!
2007-01-10 09:57:07 · 14 answers · asked by thissilentangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people who happen to judge others are really feeling bad about themselves and it tends to make them happy if they comment on others. Your friends ex is a real loser for saying that to her, but really i believe its because he has low self esteem and feels better when he told her that. He knows deep down that she deserves someone better, or perhaps she hurt him in some way and he just lashes out on her. Talk to your friend let her know that its not true and comment on how other guys have been talking good about her. Tell her that no guy on this earth wants skin and bones they would rather have a girl with a figure, and if your really skinny you wont have that. Keep a close eye on her and help her through this, shes gotta realize that everyones not going to weight 100 pounds, its not right and its not pretty.
2007-01-10 10:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart, good for you showing an attitude like this, I couldn't agree more. Talk to someone about your friend but also tell her yourself what you think of her, how beautiful you know she is and if any guy doesn't love her just the way she is, then they don't deserve her. Always remember, no guy is worth your tears and the one that is wouldn't make you cry.
You are so right, celebrity attitudes towards beauty is so fake, there is no way that they care less about real people, only selling copies. On one page they target the people who believe that skinny easily becomes too skinny, and then right on the next, attack the person who (bare in mind has had two kids within the last 18 months in this case) is not a size zero.
Guys can be real jerks, but never let them control the way you view yourself and teach your friends the same. Good luck and all the best to your friend, its nice to hear of more people similar to my own age with a well developed point of view.
2007-01-10 10:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
particular. Get help today. I became bulimic whilst i replaced into 12 and normally went returned and forth between anorexia and bulimia. i replaced into hospitalized for bulimia the week till now my sixteenth birthday and spent my birthday interior the hospital, ignored some month of school. It destroys your insides. I purely approximately died. i are conscious of it ought to sense like a competent launch or a competent form of self-punishment, yet once you relatively consume healthful and exercising you will sense SO good approximately your self and it will purely make you a happier individual I promise. i understand childhood is confusing and you're purely thirteen so i choose you to appreciate it gets harder, yet do what's nice on your physique and for your self and get help.
2016-10-06 23:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off it is not they guys fault (even though it was an insensitive comment and I am not defending him) but your friend does not have the self esteem to look at him and say that he is wrong, if he said he likes bald girls would she shave her head? (if she would that we have a real bad problem) mary kate is too skinny but britney is dressing like a two bit tramp they both suck, Scarlett Johanson and kate Winslet seem to be smart classy women to look up to, see if in fact your friend actually has a problem and try to help her as best you can
2007-01-10 10:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone one comment on people weight they say i'm tto skinny which the doctor told me I was at the prefect weight for my age.Listen to the doctor..
He didn't say she wasn't ugly.. so tell her that..He might said she was fat but he didn't say she was cute..
Just ask her how she feel and try to cheer her up she's apparently depressed.You either gain weight or lose weight when your depressed.
2007-01-10 10:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should move on and find a guy who likes her for her! Boys are the fat ones here!!
2007-01-11 09:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is bulimic it's not the guy's fault, it's her own. He doesn't make her purge, she chose to allow someone else's opinion to affect her view of herself. It's sad if that's the case. Talk to her parents or a trusted adult and get her the help she needs before her health becomes a serious issue.
2007-01-10 10:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
talk 2 ur friend and ask her if she is. u can also try convincing
her that there are other guys who will accept her for who she is. maybe if she starts liking another guy who really cares about her she won't pay care what her previous crush said
2007-01-10 10:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by brunette babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sucks. All guys have their sexual fantasy of what they want their woman to look like. Just because one jerk thinks your friend is fat doesnt mean that another guy will. Guys are just like that.
2007-01-10 10:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can tell if someones bulimic if they have calusses on their knuckles, ur friend shouldnt go out with a shallow guy like that
2007-01-10 10:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋