We teach (at least some of us) our sons to take responsibility as they grow up: provide financially and emotionally for their lady (wife), protect her, open her doors, treat her like a lady, all the gentlemanly courtesies.
And don't stop after you are married either.
Now, here's my question: what are we to teach our daughters to DO for their gentlemen (husband)? What are the expectations of a lady in terms of what she is to DO, not just what is to be done for her?
What courtesies do we teach that should be expected of ladies? What should we teach our girls to to DO for her future husband?
2007-01-10 09:56:02 · 13 answers · asked by Jay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We should teach them to both expect and give respect, kindness, and courtesy.
Teach them to be industrious workers, whether she works outside the home or not. Indeed, she should be prepared to, if married, take care of herself, her children, and her husband in a loving way.
2007-01-10 10:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was always taught to respect all other people with respect, regardless of male or female, or what ethnic origin.
I also have two young daughters, and when they get older, I hope I can teach them not to take people for granted. For example, just because men are expected to get a job and pay the bills, doesn't not mean that you can take you husband's contributions to the family for granted.
Also, I want to teach my daughters to be independent, to think for themselves, but to also keep in mind the needs and feelings of others.
2007-01-10 10:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost she should be taught to be independent before relying on a husband to take care of her. She should graduate college, have a career to pay her bills and start saving for retirement. This in turn will help her provide for the family as the man does if anything were to happen to his income. Relying just on one spouse to do all the bread winning is not realistic in this world.
Other than being independent she should support and respect her husband as he should her. She should understand that disagreements in a marriage are going to happen and they don't mean the relationship is over. She should understand that once children come in the picture she will most likely be the one to run errands for them and take them to meetings or club events.
She should be taught to respect herself and not settle for just anyone when it comes to marriage. Good moral values are extremely important.
The most important thing is to teach her to always learn. An educated woman makes a world of difference in a relationship.
2007-01-10 10:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jayne 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The bible says that a woman should honor her husband and teach younger women how to love their husbands. There are many good books on relationships that would help you with this question, His needs her needs is a good one.
I tell all my daughters that the most important and special thing she could ever do for her future husband is to keep her purity for him and to expect him to do the same. This is a gift that you can only give once, and if the right man understands this, then he is the right man.
2007-01-10 10:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I teach my daughter how to be her own person. I don't want her to ever have to depend on a man for support. I want her to be secure in her own self. If her husband wants to financially responsible, that's great, but she needs to be just as financially responsible just in case something happens. It's all about self respect and independence!
2007-01-10 10:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by tx girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What l have always taught my daughter is to love and respect ur partner. To not smother him and to give him space as he should do for you. Women tend to be more clingy and this at times makes you partner run away. If you both give eachother space you can then meet in between. I also believe women should be independant and lead a road of what you want in life,,, if a person wants to join you on your road then thats a BONUS if not dont forget your road. AND dont change your man, you feel in love with the person, so why change him after you marry. This also applies to men with women.
good luck
2007-01-10 10:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by angie h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should teach her to respect her self. Make people respect her. How to take care of things financially education ect... . and how to love by loveing her.
2007-01-10 13:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this mite sound old school...but just respect him and be there for him. not relying on him but just make sure he stays happy...that doens't mean do EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING to make him happy...it means do that lil things that matter...like greet him when he comes home from work....make his plate everyonce in a while...do a romance sexy nite every once in a while to let him know you appriacate him...but also teach her that she gotta do her and be indepenant. she needs to know what just cuz she is married doesn't mean thats all to life. and teach her what NOT to do..also teach her to respect herself and dont always put her man first make sure she thinking about her furture and her health.
2007-01-10 10:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by nIkKI lOI 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you teach kids according to their temper. no use teaching a tomboy to be a perfect little housewife, or a gay boy to act like mr. macho.teach them how to be themselves, the best they can be.
2007-01-10 10:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by gabriela 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should teach them to respect people and to wait till there are married to have sex
2007-01-10 10:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunshinebear8 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋