I have a kid who goes to his dads every Friday back saturday morning . my boyfriends kid comes over every other weekend aged 8 at 7.45pm+ on a Friday . it is my only day of the week i get time out . he just brings him here . and boyfriend ignors him whilst he plays playstation and stays up til 10 pm. I Run a business and feel that he should get up bring him over at like 10am Saturday so i can get some time out with him and also have some time out without kids .It is my home and very stressed with work so that few extra kid free hours would be hevan . am i be unreasonible asking this . please no horrible replies as i am very upset .honest please . he sees his kids every other weekend . never hugs his kid or phones in the week etc. i run around feeding them etc
2007-01-10 09:45:59 · 5 answers · asked by jojo302 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
theres nothing horrible about wanting a few child free hours to yourself, put your foot down and tell him exactly when you want his child to come round! its your house after all! it seems he s not to fussed anyway, as he has no interest in his children! and stop looking after his kids. that's his job!
2007-01-10 10:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by joanne f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound unreasonable at all. You work all week and although you love your kiddie everyone need time to themselves. and when you do there's another kid that isn't even yours that you have to look after . . . if i've got that right then thats not fair at all. Firstly the father of your child should really spend more than one evening a week with his child and vice versus. Maybe you should talk to you partner and ex-partner about maybe having alternate weekends so that both kiddies are with you for a whole weekend and then neither kiddies are with you the following weekend. I'm from the same situation and that was how my parents and step parents played it. Secondly your current partner shouldn't be having his child around and then not spending any time with him/her, expecting you to slave around for him looking after his child. Seems like you've got a lot on your shoulders. Maybe if talking to him doesn't get through to him how upset you are, you should show him this post and all the answers you've received coz even though i haven't read them all i'm pretty sure they will all be on your side. Maybe that will give him idea about how much pressure our under. Don't just suffer it though!!!!
2007-01-10 10:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I right in thinking that you are the main carer of his child,
You need to lay down the law,
Like you say it's your home,
He needs to contribute,
How about going out while his kid is there,
It may give him a shock,
Don't respond to the childs needs instantly,
That's his job.
Check into a hotel for the night and have some breathing space and pampering.
lots of luck
2007-01-10 10:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, wish I could see my kids as often as your boyfriend does. maybe you should talk to him about it as he seems not that interested in one on one with his kid to me which as a father being denied access I find insulting. Just put your concerns to him and see how it goes from there. Why does your kids dad only see him for only 24 hrs? I thought kids were for life not just when it suits?????????????
2007-01-10 10:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by SuperDAD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always tell him if he wants his son on a friday that you will spend the evening with freinds he will then know how it feels to be neglected. good luck
2007-01-11 10:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by lynette r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋