I am a college student and last semester I had an AWESOME teacher. I am a Christian and I found out that she was involved with the Christian Campus House and stuff so I really really enjoyed being in her class. I found out on the last day of class that she found out she had cancer. I want to ask her how she is doing...like....to get an update because it has been awhile, but I don't know the proper way to do it. Obviously I don't want to say something silly like "How's your cancer?" So......any suggestions? I sent her a card at the end of the semester telling her I was praying for her, so she knows I'm concerned for her, but I don't know how to go about asking anything else. Oh, and one more thing, she's very very young like....20 something and just got married so it's really sad.
2007-01-10 09:45:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey, just go ahead and get in contact with her. Be direct, she is likely to appreciate the directness. Like, I appreciated having you as a teacher last semester and I know you were diagnosed with cancer and I would like to know how you are holding up? Can I be praying for any thing specific, and ask if there is any particular verse she would like you to pray for her on her behalf.
Are you in the same city? You might offer to run some errands also.
Just remember the Holy Spirit is at work in this and He has put her on your heart, and she'll recognize that.
It's a God thing and isn't He wonderful the way He'll help us to comfort and care and lift one another up.
So don't know her but by proxy she's on my prayer list tonight.
2007-01-10 13:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The card was proof enough that you care. The best thing to do is to be silent and just wait for her to open the topic up voluntarily. It would really offend her if you'll ask questions now. Just continue praying for her.
God Bless.
2007-01-10 10:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by chics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 13:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by bason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like thankyoun's answer the best.
I agree, be direct. Many cancer patients are treated as fragile, and others avoid talking about the subject because they are uncomfortable with it. She may very well need to talk to someone.
Kudos to you for caring and wanting to help!
2007-01-11 01:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is so lucky to have a sweet person like you praying for her. I would send another card with your info so she can be in touch with you when she feels up to it. Just let her know you are caring. She should follow through...good luck!
2007-01-10 10:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ask her...like hey mrs.... ur looking awfully nice today? and if she looks at u funny or sumthing...then that means she doesnt want to talk about it but if she answers normally and just says sumthing like ya my cancer not bothering me. then u know ur answer and u can lead the convo there..... or......just ask her if she minds u talking to her about her cancer....either way works.
for way number 2...make sure u have a excuse too. like do u mind if we talk about ur cancer cuz my friend/aunt/mom/bro/sis...etc also has it and i just want to know a bit more about it and wut i can do for him/her
2007-01-10 10:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could send her an e-mail and say something like, "I've been thinking about you and wondering about your health. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. I'd love to keep in touch."
2007-01-10 10:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just strike a casual conversation and go from there..
2007-01-10 10:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her "how are you doing?"
2007-01-11 05:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋