Ok, yeah, guy trouble...
There is this guy, he is a sophomore and I am freshman. (highschool) and I kinda sorta like him. At first he was just disgusting, but I got to like him. HE is a pervert, and he is really crude, but for some reason I really like him. Ok, I said that 3 times now, lol. SO anyways, When I think about him, my stomach turns and twists, kinda like butterflies but way stronger. It isn't bad tho. It is definitley good. I am a perfect little girl. Never kissed a guy, never drank, Straight As, all of that stuff. I don't even curse. He likes me, but he is a crude pervert. Hw touches me, and he says stuff he knows makes me squirm. I am going to his sis' house, but I am worried about how he'd act. I like him, so should I go for him? He has a thing for freshman... and he has slepet with a few of them.
Oh yeah, and just thinking about kissing him makes my stomach dance really bad, to where I almost feel sick.
2007-01-10 09:30:36 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, the trouble is in your head, because he is playing you, and you are allowing him to do so. That is OK, because you are just starting to understand how things work, and didn't recognize that he is disrespecting you.
It seems like you are just going through some normal curiosity, and are attracted by behavior that is different from your own.
You say you are a perfect little girl, never kissed a guy or drank, and you have straight As and don't even curse. Under this scenario, you are being attracted to the bad-boy sort of guy. This is really quite usual, and by allowing him to engage in behavior that makes you uncomfortable, touching or talking, makes him think this is appropriate behavior.
Do not go for him, and make certain you establish boundaries as to what is and is not acceptable. How do you know he has slept with several other freshman girls? Did he tell you, or is this common knowledge at school. First way, he is a talker and would talk about you with future targets. Second way, you may as well paint a target on yourself.
Regardless of how you perceive things at school or on television or popular culture, approximately one half of US women were still virgins on their twentieth birthday, and the half that weren't virgins includes women who married before their 20th birthday.(sources are CDC and NIH).
Just recognize that this guy is a predator, and learn that you will encounter many more in the next few years. He is looking for dominance or control, as evidenced by his preference for younger girls, who lack the experience to realize what he is doing and turn away his efforts.
Also, if you are a friend of his sister, you REALLY DON'T want to go for him, for several reasons.
I was an advisor for teen groups for nearly 20 years, and watched these games happen all the time. He will respect you more if you establish boundaries. You have plenty of time to concentrate on developing balance in all aspects of your life. Squirming is normal, but is not a very good reason to go for someone. Just recognize that this is a normal defense mechanism your body is experiencing, and heed the warning signs and stay away.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 07:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 19:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. He can be rude and perverted but he can't make you do or say anything you don't want to. Never change who you are for a boy and be careful that he isn't only interested in you because he thinks you might still be a virgin. Be careful that he doesn't have a hidden agenda for you. Some guys like younger girls for there purity and want to be the first one to have them. Just be VERY CAREFUL. :)
2007-01-18 04:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bad news. Do not get involved with him. That's not what you want to hear though and you'll probably go ahead with it anyway (sigh). At least insist on him using protection if you have sex. That should be a dealbreaker.
2007-01-12 10:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it trust me u feel like u like him b/cause hes probably the
only that has tried to holla @ u!!!!!!!!!thatz how u feel !!!!
2007-01-18 09:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by lily XOXO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋