does she fancy him?

Question

thers a girl at my pateners work who is always calling 4 his help and bumping into him she sent him a xmas card saying lots of love. She is engaged to someone my partner thinks she doesnt fancy him but i do please help

Answer 1

she sounds like a big smelly tease.

Answer 2

I don't think there is a problem with the lots of love bit, I put that on all of my cards, including women, it's just what some people do. If she has a fiancee though, why can't she ask him for help? Of course there will be some people who fancy your boyfriend, I'm sure there are people who fancy you, it doesn't mean you'll run off with them. I wouldn't make to much of an issue of it, it might drive a wedge between you. She would get what she wanted then if she did fancy him. I doubt she's following him though, I bump into people all the time, it doesn't mean I fancy them. Take it easy or she will get what she wants. If it is upsetting you just tell your bf to say I'm sorry but I'm a bit busy at the moment, she'll soon take the hint that he has no interest in her and will stop ringing.

Answer 3

Well honestly I'm a very territorial type of chic, so I wouldn't be comfortable if a woman was calling my man on his cell or home phone or even asking him to do favors while out of work.Thats just not right wether she likes him or not.A grown women should just know better & to keep her distance from a TAKEN man & not cross the line...Even if she's only being friendly it's not acceptable!I HATE WOMEN LIKE THAT!Especially when she's engaged....But anyways to answer your question I think she does have a little "Thing" for your hubby....Just rub it in her face that you & your partner are very happy in your relationship (do this w/o flaunting TOO much).O & talk to your husband & ask him to limit his "helping her" because you are not comfortable with it & helping a friend once in a while is fine but when its too often its just NOT right...Well Goodluck

Answer 4

Maybe she does just value him as a friend, as she is engaged to someone else, there could be nothing in it so it's best not to start jumping to conclusions. However if you think she has ulterior motives just keep an eye on her and if she, for example keeps calling him at home or out of work hours just explain to your partner that you're not comfortable with his, can he leave work stuff at work and that it's not appropriate. Men can't always tell when someone's interested, but as long as you trust your partner I wouldn't worry about it. If you do mention to him her calling lots, etc. and he gets defensive, make it clear that you know he would never do anything and you're fine with them working together, but you'd rather she doesn't encroach on your time with him and he should understand. Also, if she asks him out for a drink etc. this shouldn't be work-related as you've already said keep work stuff at work, so why not go along, if you keep turning up when she's trying to get him alone should put her off.

Answer 5

You fancy anyone, go with red flags. So what she's in engaged, her fiance is not there, so she thinks no big deal. But, let her get you down, try to beat her at your own game, dinner, dancing wearing bedroom outfits he likes. Just be a flirt back with him that will help you out, and if you can't grab his attention, then there is more to this thing. Then you have the right to ask him and ask him where your relationship is going.

Answer 6

Was the christmas card addressed to just your partner or to your partner and you both? If it was addressed to you as a couple, don't worry about it, she's not disrespecting you. How about when you see her, is she nice to you and acknowledge you appropriately? If so, then she's only a bit flirtatious and you have no gripe against her.

If however she's brushing you off or not acknowledging that you are your partner's other half, then you may have to put yourself in her view and shoo her away. Do it nicely though and keep your class and your cool.

Answer 7

Tricky one!!!
I'd say stay cool coz it's your patner, if you trust him then who cares if she does fancy him. He'll do the right thing by you if he's got any respect. Sounds like she's being a bit of a bunny boiler though. If she's got a partner as well then its not really fair is it.
I say stand by your man and give him the trust and respect you would want if it was the other way round.

Answer 8

She may just be one of those types of girls that are really nice to everyone. Some people aren't used to girls being so nice to them so they assume that the girl likes them. If she's engaged to someone then she made a commitment to be with that person for the rest of her life and no one should get in the way of that. If she was interested she would make it more obvious.

Answer 9

Well to be honest she could either be looking for an office fling or maybe she's bored with the guy she's engaged to and is looking for some excitement but in the wrong place, if you and your partner are ok and he has no feelings for her then it won't last long as long as he doesn't take any notice of her advances or comments. x

Answer 10

At the very least she has a major crush on him. She may be engaged to someone but at the slightest indication of interest from your partner she'd be suddenly un-engaged. You could tell her to back off or you will have a little talk with her fiance - may work, may backfire. Your best bet is to convince your partner to tell her to cool it, that he isn't interested. Then again, maybe your partner is secretly flattered by her attention.

Answer 11

Was the Xmas card addressed to both of You? Either way Lots of love, I'd be thinkin..