My boyfriend left this week for a 6 month deployment to the persian gulf. I always here everyone saying that all military guys cheat on their girlfriends when they're over seas. He already went on a 3 month trip and he didn't cheat (I'm sure of). We've been together for over a year and we love eachother. Could he fall under that category though?
2007-01-10 09:02:41 · 28 answers · asked by afitchchic 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He says he trusts me and knows that I will be waiting for him on the pier. He also has a guilty concsiounse. But, what things can I do for him while he is gone to make sure it doesn't happen. To keep the love there? (things I can say, send, etc.)
2007-01-10 09:15:43 · update #1
Quit listening to your stupid friends. Just because they are in failed relationships is no reason to drag you into the gutter too. I was deployed for over a year and managed to keep it in my pants and my g/f was faithful as well. He will be fine and so will you. OK?
2007-01-10 09:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 23:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not ALL of them cheat, but cheating is bad in the military, but being in the military I ask myself "how bad is the cheating in the civilian world?" I think that it seems to be so big only becuase the military really is a small community, so the word gets out more often and on a wider bases. There's no way to tell unless somebody took a military and civilian wide poll- and even then, people aren't honest. You're asking for honest answers from an an unhonest act! LOL People do fool around on deployment A LOT... And people in the military jump into relationships fast and hard, throwing "I love you's" out more often... You be the judge of your situation...
2007-01-10 09:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that I don't meet your criteria for answering....but I do have an opinion. I know from when I was in Iraq that the women cheat just as much as the men. I will admit that I was one of those women too....granted I wasn't married at the time, but I was in a committed relationship. Most soldiers; both male and female follow one saying...what happens on a deployment stays there. Most of the spouses that are left behind elieve in that too. My husband has just left for Iraq again....and I sent him with condoms. I love my husband to death, and can't imagine cheating on him; and I hope he feels the same. But if something happens, I DON'T want to know about it. And as long as he takes the proper precautions I don't particularly care. Don't get me wrong though...if he ever had an affair while he was home I would leave him in a heartbeat. There is no excuse for him going elsewhere when I am ready, willing, and available. However...when I am in Alaska and he is in Iraq I think it is a totally different situation.
2016-03-17 21:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man is a man is a man. One never knows what he will do. If the urge is there, he may or may not succumb to it. There is absolutely no guarantee no matter how much he loves you. After all, you are here; he will be there.He has already seen a different kind of beautiful woman. Soon he will see still others. (And yes, there are some very striking Arab women, however; your boyfriend may not strike their fancy either.)You say "I'm sure of" (that he didn't cheat on a 3-month trip.) but one never knows. It's not like he will come back to you and tell you on the one hand that he loves you while on the other that he's had an affair.
Much luck.
2007-01-10 09:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by rare2findd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Do all military guys cheat?
My boyfriend left this week for a 6 month deployment to the persian gulf. I always here everyone saying that all military guys cheat on their girlfriends when they're over seas. He already went on a 3 month trip and he didn't cheat (I'm sure of). We've been together for over a year...
2015-08-13 20:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Egon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to the middle east twice and I have never even thought about being unfaithful to my wife. As a matter of fact, over the last five years, I have spent about 2 years and 4 months away from my wife in total, and our relationship is still very strong. Communication is the key. If he is on a ship, you should be able to e-mail him every day. Do not nag him or "push his buttons"; he is already under a lot of stress just being away from everyone he loves. Just send him e-mail reminders of how much you love him. Keep him posted on events in your life, and ask him how things have been going for him. Letters are good, too, but they take a while to get there. An occasional care package full of snacks and goodies is a great way to show you care, as well, just make sure you send an excessive amount of stuff, because as soon as it is opened the "vultures" will descend. Anyway, to sum up, it isn't easy, but it can be done. Just try your hardest to stay in touch, and keep in mind that he is not having an easy time of it either.
2007-01-10 09:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by That Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I served for 15 years and never cheated on a girlfriend or my wife. I only saw three military individuals (one was female) cheat during my 15 yrs.
One guy cheated on his wife while in Japan... and got caught. One guy (single) stole another guys' girlfriend while he was deployed... he was transfered out. And the gal started a relationship with another sailor while delployed... they both got caught and given Bad Conduct Discharges.
I saw more poor behavior from military wives / GF's... including my now ex-wife.
So ignore the generalizations your hearing from others... if your boyfriend is a GOOD guy he won't cheat. If he does, he isn't a good guy and you don't need him.
Good luck, God Bless, and WRITE him often.
2007-01-10 09:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by mariner31 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can cheat, men or women. Some groups of people are more prone to cheat due to circumstances, pople in the military being one of them because they are usually away from the ones they love, but dont forget those that are famous or a star athelete are usually in the same boat, beacuse of having women thrown at them. Just have faith in the one that you love. If your relationship is strong enough not time, distance or any other woman can make your man cheat.
2007-01-10 09:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by kellie_new_mom25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in the military and have seen both sides of the relationship cheat; the spouse at home and the one deployed. However, in my experience it is not very common. On most deployments, you are very busy and have little time to think about it. You do have time off or port calls, and that is where the strength of your relationship comes in. If you two have a strong, loving relationship than he won't want another, only you. At least thats how it is with my girl.
2007-01-10 09:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by pilotjock 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No more than the average civilian male cheats. Of course there are cheaters in the world, if not, we would have that "high quality TV show"(sarcasm) to watch.
But, I would not say it is anymore common just because they are in the military.
As a rule though, I did my four years in the military as a single man. I spent two six month deployments on ship when in the Corps. I did not have any ties holding me back.
You know him better than anyone on this site, so you should be able to answer that question better than us.
2007-01-10 09:12:59 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋