He's 19 months old, going through his terrible 2's early, i've never allowed him to sleep with me because i didnt want to make it a habit but he's just started waking in the middle of the night and jumping into bed with me, i cant put him back without him comming back in, i'm 19 yrs old and for my patience, i need my sleep and i'm not getting any! Please help!
2007-01-10 08:39:32 · 12 answers · asked by ♡MaNda♡ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thank you all for your responses, they've all been very helpful. Firstly, i do place him back in his bed, but not as regularly as i've been told, secondly, the only thing that has changed would be the heat, i'm in Australia and it's summer, we're facing 40degree weather, daily, he dosnt take to the heat very well.
2007-01-10 09:21:44 · update #1
He may be teething, thats the age my son started getting his molars in. But more importantly, your son is telling you that he needs something.
This is not a battle of wills, this is not a being in charge issue, this is a baby who wants comfort. I don't know why he needs the comfort - teething, nightmares, a completely normal evolutionary fear of being alone in the dark where there are sabertooth tigers.... Your choice is how to give him comfort and still get some sleep. If you absolutely won't have him in your bed, I recomend setting up a firm futon or toddler bed beside your bed and give him some cuddle before encouraging him to snuggle in there.
2007-01-10 09:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kahuna Burger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a very tired mom. Some experts say its ok to comfort them back to sleep when they wake up in the middle of the night. I would try to keep putting him back in his bed when he wakes up no matter how many times he gets up. You will be tired for the first few days but before you know it, he will start going back to sleep on his own or after only being put back to bed once. I don't let my son little one get into bed with me either when he wakes up in the middle of the night. They seem to be able to climb any barrior. I think they are little monkeys sometimes, lol.
2007-01-10 08:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think of which you made a mistake with tips from no longer conserving him. particular, that's the final suited factor to do, yet you have finished this too early. If he has slept positive up till some weeks in the past, purely carry him for some moments till now he is going to mattress. examine him a quick tale or sing him to sleep. A based new child isn't unavoidably based till a definite age. 5-year-olds that like bedtime thoughts is commonly used, do purely no longer carry him too long or play with him too plenty till sunlight hours. I understand what you're attempting to do and that i'm no longer attempting to insult you in any way. i'm sorry if I did.
2016-10-06 23:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant just let him continue to sleep with him. If you do he will constantly come back. A child always wants to sleep with his /her mother but they will not grow out of it. If you have some cousins or friends with 2 yr olds who dont let their child sleep with them let him see how they are being a big boy and sleeping by themselves. If he sees that he may think "hmmm they are being called a big boy because they sleep alone and if I sleep alone they might call me a big boy so maybe i'll try it". My sister let my niece sleep with her and now she has stop because I had a friend who had a girl and she was sleeping in her room alone and after she saw that, that night she slept alone in her room and she still does that and shes 4. Try it it works. I hoped I helped a lot.
2007-01-10 08:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Asheypooh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The issue is your patience. You HAVE to get up and put him back in his bed EVERY SINGLE TIME. it'll only take a few nights of doing this over and over, and eventually he'll stop.
Either his will to get his way and do what he wants is stronger, or you will to be a good parent and provide him with the training he needs is stronger. But thats a choice YOU make. Not him.
2007-01-10 08:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why has his behavior suddenly changed? Is he having nightmares? Is there something different (people, daycare, whatever) in his daytime that is making him feel threatened? It sounds like there might be something important going on. You need to find out if there is and what it is and address it. Where he wants to sleep may be the symptom, not the problem.
2007-01-10 09:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Louise M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a battle of wills and controls. If you don't want to take the hassle of putting him back to his bed, no matter how many times one night and for how many weeks, then he wins. I had to do that with my son, it took like 20-30 times one night to get him stay in his bed.
You can also explain to him clearly what you want him to do, and if he stays in bed, he gets a treat the next day.
2007-01-10 08:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gate his room (sounds like he can get out of his crib) and leave him even if he cries. He'll get over it. He'll start by crying till he falls asleep by the gate; then he'll get up and try to get out without crying and just lie down and go back to sleep by the gate; and eventually he'll stop bothering to get out of bed. Trust me, we've been through this.
2007-01-10 09:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 16 months old and has never slept by himself. It's a battle that I can't win.
2007-01-10 08:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the parent.
Put him back to bed.
He'll make you feel REALLY guilty about it.
Put him back to bed anyway.
Think of the larger issue here...who controls who?
2007-01-10 08:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by mmd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋