I know my mother-in-law is. I just wanted to see how many of you feel this way about them. I think when you get married that there should be a law stating that your husband's or wife's mother must be sent to an island totally away from you and your husband so that you can live happily and peacefully.
2007-01-10 08:20:29 · 27 answers · asked by Lucinda M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You forgot to say manipulative! My mother in law is always trying to tell us what to do!! She's controlling, dirty/messy, manipulative, and so cold! She never did anything for any of her sons, and now that someone is, she can't accept it! I think she's just afraid to be alone (she's divorced), but COME ON!! Get your own life woman!
2007-01-10 09:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by moon_gurl_02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you get married the mother just feels less like she's need it's just a bit of jealousy that's why it's always good to develop a good relationship with the mother before marriage. Not all mother in laws are like that especially if they have a lot of children. Try watching Dr. Phil some times those are the crazy ones LOL but really let's hope that you don't live near any of your parents (I think it kind of sad when adult children do depending...) Good luck
2007-01-10 08:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. I think that they should have to go to a Island and live far far away from us. My mother In law is the worst. If she ever told the truth I think that she would die. She lives with us and I have thought many times about leaving and never coming back because of her. I have a wonderful husband but his mother is the devil in the flesh. I wish you luck with your mother in law I know I need it or a plane ticket for mine. LOL.
2007-01-10 14:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disliked resented my mother-in-law when I first married. She tried to control him/us and meddled with my parenting. I held firm but tried to do it kindly. With the years she learned to respect our marriage and me as an adult. We've come to love each other. I even enjoy her (most of the time). I've observed that part of the problem is that men seem to humor their Mom's. They yes them to death and avoid confronting them when they are meddling and controlling. Then a wife comes along and has to drawing the line. After 22 years of marriage I can look back and also admit that I was jealous of the hold she had on my husband. I now have an 18 year old son. We're close. When he marries I will respect the boundaries of his marriage and my place in their lives. I hope he'll find a woman who respects me and is not threatened by my relationship with my son. I hope we can be friends.
2007-01-10 08:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Karrose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the only reason you need a co-signer is to save interest then forget it. You can refinance later down the road after you have established your own good credit line. You need to work within your own boundaries and not ask for their help. What you said to her was, well, right and wrong. You should have avoided the fowl words. Otherwise you were in your place to defend yourself. Hopefully her son will support you and agree to make it in this world without using them to smooth the way for you. You have worked hard already in your life so you understand the need to do so. Help your man to see this too. He has not had to do what you have to survive. He has always had dad to help him out and to provide. You are taking him away in their eyes not that dad is the problem but the mother will always see it that way. Mothers with money never seem to just let go. Once in control they want to stay in control. No other woman will ever be able to take care of her boy properly and since she has the money all women are going to be after it. Love your man and help him to live without their help.
2016-05-23 06:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Daniela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK MY MOTHER IN LAW IS EVIL OR CONNIVING....I THINK SHE IS JUST ANNOYING. LOL TO THE ISLAND IDEA....I AM IN MINNESOTA AND MY MO-IN-LAW IS IN ARIZONA....THAT STILL ISN'T FAR ENOUGH AWAY. ANYWAY, THE THING THAT ANNOYS ME ABOUT HERE IS 1) SHE TREATS MY HUSBAND LIKE A CHILD (CALLS HIM JOHNNY-BOY) AND 2) HE IS 27 AND MARRIED, SHE DOESN'T NEED TO TALK TO HIM EVERYDAY, AND WHEN SHE DOESN'T TALK TO HIM FOR 2 DAYS (YES, 2) SHE SENDS HIM AN EMAIL AND LEAVES A MESSAGE ON THE ANSWERING MACHINE SAYING, ARE YOU ALIVE? ARE YOU OK? I MEAN, COME ON! HOW DO YOU EXPECT YOUR CHILD TO EVER GROW UP AND BE RESPONSIBLE IF YOU CAN'T DO THE SAME!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT MY HUSBAND THINKS OF MY MOM, BUT I'M SURE THERE ARE THINGS ABOUT HERE THAT HE DOESN'T LIKE EITHER. EVERYONE HAS THINGS THAT THE DON'T LIKE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE, AND JUST BECAUSE IT'S YOUR MOTHER IN LAW, DOESN'T MAKE HER MORE OF A BAD PERSON THAN OTHER PEOPLE. IF THERE ARE THINGS THAT YOU DON'T LIKE THAT SHE DOES, TELL YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR MIL. OTHER THAN THAT, MY MIL IS GREAT. I STILL LOVE HER.
2007-01-10 08:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jen G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I have thought a LOT about this. That mother in law relationship is doomed, always. EVERYBODY thinks that about theirs, some even admit it. Mostly mils feel the same about sons in law too.
So, the best thing is to realize that and try to get past it. See each other as good people who aren't related to you. Then you might even really like them, at least sometimes. Thats what I try to do and it works. My mother in law is a ex hippie ex belly dancer, she is really nice to people. Only really evil people would hate her.
2007-01-10 08:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say, I am not married, yet, but my fiance's mother is a complete nightmare.
To give you a brief hint, her attitude is her children, she has 3 sons, all adults, owe her for her raising them..she's told that to me and her sons.
Second, she hates me, her daugher-in-law, and my daughter which is her only grandchild simply because we take the money away from her that her sons should be providing her.
Third, she has been divorced from their father for like 15 years and finds it more important that he spends time with her rather than his sons and granddaughter...she makes it a competition of who can spend time with him.
She lies to her sons to get money from them, she starts arguments and fights whenever there is a family gathering, and the list can go on and on.
I am so not looking forward to her, but then again, she knows I don't let her get by me and I will give her the medicine she deserves when it comes to how she treats me.
2007-01-10 13:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by !?! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law is crazy, lazy and evil. Really both of my in laws are. They didn't come to see my husband when he was in the hospital last week, they got our 2 children NOTHING for Christmas and didn't even bother to call either, no phone call or gift for my daughter on her birthday yesterday, when my Grandmother died Christmas Morning, I got no condolence from them at all.
2007-01-10 08:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you! while you are at it-why don't you ask for the worst mother-in-law incident?
i guess one of the worst ones for me was: we were at a family gathering--I was like 3 months pregnant. and my B*tch mother-in-law brought pictures of my husbands 1st marriage. cause she thought my husband might want to keep them.
that was a deliberate jab at me! she didn't care if he had them or not. i could have shoved that picture ( well I'm sure you can guess where)
2007-01-10 09:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋