i really like this guy but whenever i try to talk to him we never talk for long, and honestly he says a maximum of 10 words. he talks alot with his friends though. Does that mean he likes me cuz hes shy? or does it mean he hates me but we play basketball against eachother at our youth group (thats how i met him) and i dont know what to do.
2007-01-10 07:57:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's so shy, then for sure he doesn't have so much luck with girls, that's why if he knows that you're interested in him it would be heaven to him. But also i don't advice that you go straight like that and tell him about your feelings, just keep talking to him, and ask questions, shy guys don't have a problem answering as much as opening a conversation. Later he will become more open with you. When there is this awful moment of no words, don't just leave as there is nothing to talk about, just stand there next to him, this gives him some time to think about something to say, good luck!
2007-01-10 08:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nipi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more introverted and aren’t as comfortable having conversations with people. Some extroverted people can be easily distracted in social settings. The conversation stack is a perfect way to help both types get to know other people. This technique allows you to focus more on what the other person is saying, rather than trying to figure out what to say next. Typical information you can discuss may include:
- Work
- Hobbies
- Family
- Travel
2007-01-10 08:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still nervous around you -- read that, he likes you & he doesn't want to screw it up. He's gonna be a little tongue-tied around you as opposed to his buddies that he’s been around for a while. Just start the conv w/ something you have in common like basketball or make a funny observation about something; or, if you know a subject that he know a great deal about, the words will come easier for him. You can also converse through email to start. It’s much easier than face-to-face & his sense of humor, etc. will come out faster. Just accept him as he is & he will trust you and come around in time. He needs to know that you like him before he takes any big risks with you.
Remember one thing: his silence does not mean his disapproval.
2007-01-10 08:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Celt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys aren't talkative - so you should find out some of his interest and have a conversation about something he can elaborate on. But a lot of guys over the phone don't say much try to do something in a group so he isn't uncomfortable
Good Luck
2007-01-10 08:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just ask him directly if he likes you. If he says yes, then start the conversation & dont leave him alone after his 10 words.
If he says no, ask him for friendship & then strike the conversation & follow the rule illustrated above. Ask his hobbies, family, school, job, movies, music, sports anything... his telephone number..... email address, chatting IDs... internet conversations are 100% guaranteed from a shy guy.
A shy person shall never initiate anything; but continous provokes frees him.
2007-01-10 08:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by hmmm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find similar interests. Talk to him about the previous basketball game you played. Sounds like he's not that confident when it comes to a relationship. Keep the conversation going, and I'm sure he'll get more comfortable..
2007-01-10 08:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by TheClassic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out what he likes then start talking and asking questions about a subject he is interested in.
2007-01-10 08:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by T.K. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is shy and just needs to get to know you better. Take it easy and maybe even go out as a small group at first. Good luck.
2007-01-10 08:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by richard555 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find something you know he's passionate about (sports, politics, sex, whatever) then start a conversation and ask him about his opinion, or thoughts or whatever about that passion...
Generally, if you can find an interest the person has, and start them talking about it... you've got the in you need.
Once you're talking you can also ask him out... that takes care of finding out whether he likes you or not.
The other option is to simply tell him you like him, then ask him out...
Best wishes.
-dh
2007-01-10 08:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out what things he is interested and talk about that. After a while if he like you it will come naturally
2007-01-10 08:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋