What do you do when you lost a loved one and didn't get to make peace...?

Question

and tell them how much they meant to you? My dad passed 3 years ago and I never really told him what a great father he was, It haunts me and makes me depressed

I wish he was buried so I could go to his grave. Unfortunately he wanted to be cremated (even though he was a strict Catholic and it is against the religion)

Answer 1

first, i am so sorry for your loss. He CAN hear you....talk to him. if you have had any dreams with him in them, and he TALKS to you...it is not a dream ..it is really him! (*if you are just seeing him in any dream that is a dream)
before you go to bed, try to totally relax, look at his picture if you have one, remember the best time ever spent with him.....then ask him to come to you.tell him you love and miss him. etc
*this may not work the first time, but do it a few nights in a row, and you will sense him.
what would remind you of your dad? certain smell, (cologne or smoke etc), if you smell that, he is there. ask for a sign from him...such as seeing a certain color rose in the next three days.......(can be a pic in a book, on tv ..anywhere.....not actually getting a rose, but that would be the best) then, when you see the rose --you will know for sure he is there, watching over you. and, i am sure, he knew how much you loved him and what a great dad he was....
*did his name start with an R by any chance? if so, then you know he is helping ME right now to help YOU.......!

read her books.(below)....they will help you understand more:
Suzane Northrop :: The Seance - theseance.com - Suzane Northrop is a nationally recognized trance medium and expert in psychic phenomena.

Answer 2

My sister in law commited suicide 6 years ago, and we adored her. It haunted us for a long time that we had not talked for almost 2 weeks (phone tag) and that even though we all said we loved each other, we never got to tell her what a beautiful person she was and how much we admired her. Her favorite flowes were carnations, and she LOVED the ocean. On her bday after she had been gone for quite a while, my husband and I went to the coast and threw a bunch of carnations in, we talked about her and what a wonderful person she was and we made peace. Think of something that is symbolic of your relationship with your Dad. Experience it in some way and through that maybe you can bring about closure. For example, if he loved to fish, go fishing and just talk to the open air about your dad- maybe have a letter for him that you could set on the water for him, sort of a tribute. I know he is gone, but the main thing is he is not forgotten. Parents know that their job is a selfless one and they do not need to be told they are adored at all times. They know it by seeing you happy and accomplished. I hope you find the peace you seek.

Answer 3

The same thing happened to me. You cannot dwell on it or it will bring you down for the rest of your life. You have to believe that he already knew how you felt about him so you can go on with your life. Sure you will still think about it all of the time but if you let it get to you then it will haunt you for the rest of your life and that is not good for you either. It took me a long time too to move on and deal with the other things in my life that I just had to keep telling myself that he knew. And if there really is a higher place we go to after death, then he is looking down on you and he KNOWS.

Answer 4

So tell h im now. Either at graveside or wherever, you have to believe that his problems are over and that he no longer has any hard feelings for you, that funerals and such are for the living to "make peace" at so THEY feel better. So do what ever you need to do to unburdon yourself and get peace.

Answer 5

There is nothing that u can do right now sweetie because you dad is already gone, but you can pray to God that it would bring peace to you and that you wouldn't be so depressed about it. He will make you feel better about being so hard on yourself.

Answer 6

I could see why it would hurt you so much. I would go to where he was buried and let him know how you feel. Talk to him at night when you are about to go to bed and let him know. I believe that when a loved one passes away they watch over you. I also believe that they hear/see you specially when you are grieving.

Answer 7

If he's watching you, then he knows.

If he's not watching you i.e. cut off completely from this world (or non-existent) then it doesn't matter. But understand that he was probably smart enough to know that you thought that even though you didn't say it or show it.

Learn from this experience and let people who mean alot to you know how you feel. It can't be bad!

Answer 8

I am sure your dad knew that you loved him and he loved you, Don't feel that way you can't do anything about it (not for your dad) just love your family that you got now.

Answer 9

if you believe in life after death, see a medium/psychic. i know not everyone believes in this. my mother never cared much for me, and when she died, i had a lot of unresolved issues. it really helps, i know now she really loved me, just never showed it. good luck!

Answer 10

go wherever his ashes were dumped (if they were) and talk to him....all fathers know how much their daughters love them and meant to them.........dont be depressed im sure he knows how you felt whether you told him or not.....just make peace with yourself before you mourn on yourself your whole life............