Last evening, while taking the train home after work, I ran into one of my co-workers. We started conversing about some of the people working on this project with us. I said that I was carrying a disproportional part of the load, and while saying the “I” in “I am carrying the bulk of the load,” I pointed to my chest with my left hand. According to my co-worker, some of the girls sitting near us on the train thought I was arrogant for doing this. After I got off at my stop, the girls supposedly laughed at me and talked to my co-worker about me pointing to my chest while saying “Iiiiiiiiiiii am carrying the bulk of the load.” I do this a lot when referring to myself and am wondering if doing this makes me come off as a conceited individual.
2007-01-10 07:55:20 · 13 answers · asked by Evan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hi Evan,
My guess is that it wasn't just the gesture. Think about what you were saying. You're obviously talking to a co-worker and you're badmouthing your other co-workers, talking about how they're slackers and that you're having to do most of the work.
Every single bit of this may be true, but that doesn't mean you need to broadcast it to the other folks on the train. IMHO, you came across as being conceited because you were concerned only with you. The self-pointing just iced the cake of conceit that you had already baked.
All that being said, you get a bunch of stars in my book just because you are engaging in some self-examination--wondering how you come across to other people. To me, that says a lot.
Here's some unasked-for advice. To help shake any impressions you've left with others that you might be conceited, talk less and listen more. Respond to other people's comments. Ask them questions. Listen to their answers. Let it be about them. You're gonna end up with a lot more friends, co-workers who will be more willing to share the load, and a happier life.
Hope this doesn't rub the wrong way, Evan. I'm sending it your way with my very best wishes,
searcher
2007-01-10 08:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by searcher 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-03 19:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by petroni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-01-10 07:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~dreamvette~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably didn't mean anything by that gesture :p
People read wayy too much into stuff, don't worry about it..
2007-01-10 09:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ AnGeL oF cLaRiTy ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. Those girls were obviously morons. Either that or your coworker is a moron.
2007-01-10 08:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like that big of a deal.
2007-01-10 08:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by isiseamenhotep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the girls were stupid. I don't think you were conceited.
2007-01-10 09:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not concieted...i totally understand...ur co wkers were proabably just embarassed b/c they knew that you were doing most of the wk...quick suggestion...if you kno that you ARE doing most of the job...why not step up and delegate some important ones to your co wkers??? don't blatantly say that you are doing all the work next time...especially in public
2007-01-10 08:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds understandable to me. Its normal to use hand movements when frustrated especially when referring to yourself. Thing is: How often do you talk about yourself?
2007-01-10 08:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Be careful of your gestures and tone of voice...and who you converse near!
2007-01-10 07:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋