Hi my boyfriend joined the army and left for his basic training 2 weeks ago. since then i have been calling the base he is at EVERY DAY and they wont let me talk to him! Are they allowed to do this? They just laugh at me!What can i do, who can i talk to to make them let me talk to my boyfriend? We have been dating for 3 whole months and have never been appart this long! I told him he should have taken his cell phone with him but he said he wasnt allowed what kind of silly rule is that that you are not allowed to bring a cell phone? I told him not to join this stuff! Like my birthday is this weekend and i want him to come home this weekend and spend the time with me but i cant get in touch with him because of this stupid Armys basic training! Its not fair! He is stationed at Fort Jackson in Columbia South Carolina. I might go out to the base and check on this myself if i find out hes foolin around with some girl im gonna beat that bitches ***!
Any advice on how to contact him?
2007-01-10 07:36:55 · 25 answers · asked by Single_Teen_Momma 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Good news everyone! Ive got a new boyfriend so everythings ok now. He isnt gonna do something stupid like joining the army, hes gonna stay with me! Hes getting a good job doing something and we are gonna stay together.
Thanks for your help!
2007-01-12 14:40:33 · update #1
Relax. This rule applies to everyone.
You need to realize you have a tendency toward hysteria and you also sound very immature.
2007-01-10 07:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If I didn't know better I would think this one was a joke.
Your boyfriend is at BASIC TRAINING! He is in the ARMY!! They can do anything they want to him. In fact, every time you call and make a fool of yourself he most likely has to do extra drills. He will not be able to use the phone for the first few weeks of basic, and then only to call his MOTHER! He can receive letters after a while, but will be too tired to write one unless he is very lucky. He will also not be attending your birthday party. He won't be allowed to leave base for most of 2 months. Just to ease your mind though, he can't get within 5 paces of another girl. How do I know this, I was there.
2007-01-10 10:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by BJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bast way to contact your boyfriend is snail mail. I went through the same thing when my husband left for bc at Ft Jackson. We exchanged letters, and once or twice he was able to call. A word of advice: The military does not award much status to boyfriends/girlfriends/significant others. Even spouses don't have much rank when it comes to wrangling around the rules of the military. You can be his pregnant wife in the middle of giving birth, and still, you're out of luck. While in Basic, they want your b/f to concentrate on becoming a soldier, an army of one. Anything to distract him is usually not allowed. Your break: Visitors weekend is held at the end of training, make sure you let him know you want to go. Also, there may be an open weekend that he can get a pass, but you need to make sure he can get one before trucking all the wy down there. The bottom line is, if you shoot down there right now, they are going to turn you away at the gate. He could even get into trouble. Be patient, write or email him, let him know you're thinking about him, and that will mean the world to him.
Good luck.
2007-01-10 07:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by rclorom 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? First off, you are not a spouse or family member, and even still, there are rules in place. Contacting his unit is not a good idea. He will call you when he is given phone time. If he is not getting phone time, there is a reason for that also. He is in basic training to TRAIN. He needs to focus on what he is doing, get done and graduate so he can head to A.I.T. Even though its hard not being able to talk to him, wait it out. He will call you when he can if he can. Stop calling his unit, please. Also, the military doesn't have to allow calls from anyone, and if there is an emergency there is a proper way to notify him and it wont be calling his unit. Also, if you are not his wife, to the Army you dont exist and even wives and children aren't allowed to call and interupt basic training. You will have to allow him to finish, with or without speaking to him. Sorry, thats just the way it is, but once he is in AIT he will be able to call a lot.
2007-01-10 09:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WAIT FOR HIM TO CALL OR WRITE TO YOU!!! Now that the hysterics are out of the way: If you think you are going to go down to Ft Jackson to see about this, you may find yourself in a cell with a new boyfriend named BERTHA!
Do not keep calling Ft Jackson, do not go to the post, he could get in trouble for you calling and demanding to speak to him so many times.
Just be patient, you will receive a letter or phone call within the next week. If his platoon is doing well, before long the two of you will be spending Sundays talking on the phone. If you think you are having a hard time, think about how hard it is for him; he cannot call ANYONE at will, the highlight of his days and weeks ahead will be receiving letters from you and other friends and family. So instead of spending your energy calling the post and complaining, use it to write loving letters to your b/f everytime you feel the need to talk to him. Put each letter in a separate envelope and when he gives you his address, you will have a letter to send to him everyday.
2007-01-10 08:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by jdhowell762 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've been together for 3 whole months and he hasn't vowed his undying love and given up absolutely everything else in the world to be with you!
GROW UP!!! He was obviously mature enough to join the military and he is now owned by them. Do you honestly think that going to the base this weekend and whinning to someone that you want to see your boyfriend for your birthday will do you any good? PLEASE!!! The fact of the matter is that, if you keep calling the base everyday they can actually get you for harrassment. You need to grow up, stop being such a whinny little bitty!!! He's doing what he wants to do and if he still wants to be with you when he gets out of basic, then so be it, but I promise if he finds out how you have been acting, he will find someone else.
I would LOVE to see you go to the base and start a fight with someone! Honestly, are you like 12? Just sit back, relax and wait for him to get back. While you are doing that, grow up!!! get a bit more mature and be prepared to not be his whole world.
Think about this. He has joined the military during war time. What are you going to do if, God forbid, he gets shipped off to Iraq? Ponder that for a bit and then decide if you really are able to deal with being involved with a military man.
2007-01-10 07:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound scary and rather possessive. Have you ever considered the fact that maybe - just maybe this guy enlisted to get away from you?
On to your question. Dont you know anything? He is in basic training now. He cant take a crap without his Drill Seargent giving him the Ok to do so. Once he gets through his basic and gets settled down into a life in the military he will be able to have contact with you and more of a normal life, to call you and that sort of thing.
Grow up, if you are for real learn to support your boyfriend in what he is doing. Its not all about YOU.
2007-01-10 07:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off you need to calm down you boy friend is in the army now and like it or not that means he sign a contract that says he has to do what he is told all the time. And yes they can keep you from talking to him and what is also going to happen alot Your boyfriend needs you to trust him not act like a fool Your making it harder on him then it needs to be and your making him look bad. Stop it! Second he is in basic and they do not have the men living with the women in basic( this may have change but I don't think so) You need to stop all this because he is going though a hard time now ...changing his whole life if you keep this up you won't have him in your life at all.
2007-01-10 08:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by terisa s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way that you can contact him is to write to him... let me ask you this, how old are you? You seriously didnt know that your boyfriend wouldnt be able to call you during BT? I am not critizing you, but there are certain things that are gonna change with him now. You can try to go to Fort Jackson but even if you get in there he wont be out running around he is working his butt off. He has no time to make phone calls, even if he does he will probably call his family first. I definately know that he does not have time to fool around with any other girls. As for your birthday I advise you to go outside and look up at the sky at noon and believe that he is looking there too telling you Happy Birthday! He wont be able to come home. He is on lockdown. You need to trust him and be thankful that he is protecting your freedom. Right now, my husband is overseas, and I rarely get to talk to him. I know that this is hard for you but you have only been dating for 3 months imagine if you were married... and as for you calling the base, you need to STOP! My friends sister did that to her husband and at first they put him on a sh** list, she still proceeded and he ended up with a dishonerable discharge. If that happens he will never forgive you. Just relax, trust him, and thank him.
2007-01-10 07:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by j_kuemmel02 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What are you like 14? No he can not talk to you...he gets up at 4 am and goes to bed at 9pm...he does Army stuff all day long and they have no time to themselves...he may get some time on Sundays to use the phone, but everyone else in his company will be trying to use like four phones...that is like 150 to 4..so it is timed...everytime you call they probably go out and find him and make him to do push ups till he passes out...he will probably break up with you when he gets a chance...I know I would have...write him...that is better...I think I got to call home like maybe 8 or 9 times when I was in Basic....
2007-01-10 07:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
silly silly girl the army now owns your boyfriend you have no control over when you see him or talk to him. There is no one he is fooling around with its just part of Basic. Give it some time and he will be able to call you. He is there to do a job not play house with you. I dont mean to be harsh but this is army life its not about you anymore. If you cant handle this now then i would suggest you get out of the relationship.
2007-01-10 07:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by kanga38_ 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋