i miss my ex and i still love him, but i know we cant be together. i have been single for a good few months now and my friend have asked if i would go out on a date with this guy and i feel wrong doing it but they are trying to encourage me to move forward should i listen to what they are saying? i'm so confused what would you do?
2007-01-10 07:29:54 · 12 answers · asked by bex 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont go out with the other guy
Even though im only 20 (dont know how old you are - I guess a little older) as a guy I say this because you still love your ex and are still hurting so It wouldnt be fair on the new guy as he may feel like he is wasting his time if he goes out with you abd basically even if you tell him and do gout with the new guy that youve still got feelings for your ex he is going to wonder what the hell is he doing out.
you just need to go out talk with friends have time to yourself and you will heal and everything will just become memories and sure you wont forget your ex because by the sounds of it he was something really special and you were with him a long time?
the ex is a non possibility then im sorry for you but if in your heart of hearts you feel guilty then dont go out with him
your going to hurt the new guy as he is going to feel like your messing him around
your going to hurt yourself because you still feel a lot for your ex as your not in control of your memories and emotions for him
you need time to yourself be a girl that has a laugh with her girly mates and no guys need to be involved
As a guy what we do is go out to the Footy or Rugby we go play sports we have a boys night out just to be around our friends and if women come along doesnt mean I have to flirt its my choice after all I still love my ex so im not in the mood for flirting I can be civil and just chat in a friendly manner but nothing smutty, I can compliment her hair or dress sense but it doesnt mean I fancy her im just being nice
you see what im saying?
thats what I do as a guy and you should just do what ever is the girly equivalent to watching and playing sports and boys nights out and forgodsake talk until you are blue in the face about how you feel and you will find the really top mates who will be there fore you and listen. You maybe driving them mental but friendship should have no limits and in your heart and in time you will know when you are ready
bless ya and loads of luck I know what you mean because im in the same boat as you :)
if you want to chat more then please please e-mail me Im only too happy to help
2007-01-10 09:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Music fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should.
What's the point in mopping at home?
At least this will give a pretty good idea whether you're ready or not to date. Maybe you just think you're not.
Or you might just have a nice time. Even if it won't go anywhere.
Besides, if you're sure there's no going back to your ex, you do need to make sure you do get over him, by getting out of the house, see people, talk to people and who knows?
Good luck.xx
2007-01-10 08:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious forom your question, you are still hurting. Unfortunately there is no time limit on when the hurt will stop, only that one day it will.
And whilst your friends are right you should try to move forward, only you know whether that time is now. Quite simply if you want to go on a date, you should.
Remember a date is all it is. This doesn't mean this guy is the next love of your life. Try & treat it as just a night out.
But as I say, only if you want to.
2007-01-10 07:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to date - say so. You don't have to 'date' to prove you are over someone or have a life. Enjoy hanging out with your friends, pets - whatever.
I've BTDT - and realized - what am I doing here?!!! I stopped dating for a few months until *I* was ready to date again. There's no set time frame on how long it takes to get over a previous relationship, so don't let someone else tell you when it's time to get back out there.
2007-01-10 07:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mellowsmoothv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out on the date but pre-warn your friend that you still have feelings for your ex. At the end of the day it's one date and even if you and this guy don't have a relationship together you could meet a great mate. hope this helps x x x
2007-01-10 07:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest if it was me then i would go on this date with this other man.The reason being everybody needs to move on eventually painful as it sounds but if you cannot be with your previous boyfriend then he is an ex for a reason.I know your friends mean well,and sometimes they can get it wrong,but what have you got to lose?If this date goes wrong then all you have to do is say thank you but your not ready..........good luck.
2007-01-10 07:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by sarah y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is far to soon you will be very vulnerable at the moment, you do need to socialise, being on your own a lot just makes it worse. i was married for 20 years i started dating about 2 years after the split, i felt ready then, dont feel you have to have a man in your life, you will know yourself when you are ready it is early days yet
2007-01-10 08:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be together for whatever reason then what are you going to do-pine for him for the rest of your life? of course not! you need to get back out there-he obviously wasn't 'THE ONE' if you're not with him so therefore there's still someone out there for you.
2007-01-10 08:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by munki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and make a go/talk to your ex this very second, im sure he'll be up. however you must like this guy/fancy him to consider a date so with that in mind.....do the date. just let your ex know whats happening because he loves you very much
2007-01-10 07:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by scott g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really doesn`t sound like ur ready for another man in ur life. my advice is just say no to them but u should move forward now though. start going out and enjoying urself. u can`t do much about ur past but there`s loads u can do about ur future. i wish u the best of luck
2007-01-10 09:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by groundhog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋