I'm trying to gauge if my perspective of being uncomfortable in a serious relationship with someone with kids is uniquely mine. Thanks!
2007-01-10 07:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by Monsieur Jacque 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not uniquely yours. There are many valid reasons to be uncomfortable with becoming serious with a single parent. There is a lot to understand and evaluate. Emotionally, financially and otherwise. Don't listen to sterotypical nonsense though. Each and every single parent has their own story. It's important for anyone becoming seriously involved with them to know what that story is. Ask questions. Lots of them. If you haven't discussed this with the other persson involved, you can't rightly gauge how you feel, because you don't know what, if anything would be expected of you in that scenario. Decide what you are and are not willing to give, talk to the other person, and take it from there.
2007-01-10 09:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, if my love is strong enough for the person nd if I could love their kids as well. But then you have the issues with the person's ex and if you try to tell the kids something they'll pull out the classic "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my mommy/daddy." I would probably date a guy if he had one or two children but three or more that aren't 18 years old or older is out of the question.
2007-01-10 09:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Face 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently came out of a relationship with someone who has two kids. I kept telling myself that it wasn't a big deal, but after a while I couldn't deny that it was just really weird for me. I guess it depends about your feelings on children. I myself don't really want them - at least not for a long time. Just be honest with yourself. You don't want to get involved in a relationship if you know someone's going to end up getting hurt.
2007-01-10 08:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by MaryJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew right off the bat you're about to date someone with kids then you should prepare yourself to accept them too. If you don't see yourself as someone who is capable of doing that you should'nt bother getting into it. You have to make every effort to get along with these kids because you are the adult. The children hates competence, you might have to work really hard to make them accept you. Bribing will not work. You'll have to find a way to get along with them. Please don't get involved if you have no intention in seing this relationship to the end. The children will get hurt too eventhough they don't seem to care.
2007-01-17 17:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by hurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i have one kid and usually i dont tell people because i still am looking for love and i still look good as hell.i mean yes we have kids but doesnt change anything!some say"oh she cant do anything with kids" thats so not true .i still party,go on dates and anything else i want.im stlll young and want to enjoy my life.dont judge us cause we have kids,cause some of us are better than any other chickn head out here!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 05:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what I know today, I would never date someone that has kids. I don’t need that baggage. I don’t have or want children. People with kids, just want one thing; More kids. Most women, whom had kids, that I dated, nagged me almost daily.
2007-01-11 21:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its hard..my guy has kids...
i havent been with him that long to be introduced to them...i'm young myself too...19...his oldest is 10
2007-01-10 07:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. there are many issues: kids, ex, money... try to avoid that.
2007-01-10 07:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by florrr2003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋