My Manager has started putting job insecurities in my mind. He always needs a chance to prove that I am worth nothing and that there r million mistakes in me. I have asked him lot of times to tell me wats wrong but it seems that I dont fall upto his expectations!!! i know deep within that I am working fine, but he has screwed up this image!
Though I feel I am taking some time to grasp things at my work place but i feel that I m steady and going at the right pace looking at others working alongside.
I dont have any brother or sister to support me and my parents, neother do i have any savings for my future. I am scared what if I lose this job? just becos of this I am not able to concentrate on work and dont even feel like going to work! even my personal life is getting disturbed and I am very depressed and tensed most of the time.
wat should be done?
2007-01-10 06:55:02 · 5 answers · asked by kshahida 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'd say your boss sounds like he needs to take a course on how to treat his employees. I am having this problem with my job as well. But instead of one boss, I have 8, and all the assistants underneath him.
However, self talk does wonders, if you are talking to yourself in a positive way, and not letting him get to you. We only process this kind of information the way WE WANT TO! NO ONE can make us believe any thing about ourselves that we don't want to believe, and we only react to them from within ourselves.
Personally, I am looking for another job, but I am also doing a self analysis to see why they are getting to me like they are.
You certainly aren't going to change your boss, and the only person you will ever change is yourself! Meaning if this is your feeling about this job, change your job, and try to do something that you really enjoy! I know how depressing it is to have a boss that doesn't appreciate you! Had many of them! But only ourselves can change the situation.
2007-01-10 07:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart... I am so sorry to hear this! AND I CAN RELATE!
"Good" bosses are very few and far between. There are more bosses out there that are like you describe which sticks for the rest of us.
Sounds like HE is the one with the problem...you should think about what's best for you...to be in a healthy workplace where you don't have to worry about pulling knives out of your back all the time?
He's NOT going to change. He's insecure. He always will be.
This will keep spilling over in your personal life and effecting all that you hold dear and important.
I vote for you to empower yourself...and start looking for another job. :) You deserve peace...we all do!!! Good luck!
2007-01-10 07:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I must say this sounds all too familiar (my own experiance)
My Sister doesnt' work; my one brother keeps a job as long as he wears a pair of underwear and my other brother is self employed so he doesn't work for any Hitlers. My mother, can't hang on to a job as well and she seems to think every job is out toget her. I recently (hopefully) am coming out of a bad job rut. I worked for a place for 4 1/2 years and out of the blue they let me go...Devastating yes but it gets better. As if I wasn't already beaten down enough and nearing a total breakdown I start another job that lasted a wopping 11Months. I like to refer to that place is self torture, never in my life have I been belittled to the point I was feeling depressed and ashamed of myself. To make things even more uncopeable I am going to through child support court with my ex who is trying to brain wash me into believing he provides (funny never saw a penny). My boyfriend has me convinced that I have utter and complete MENTAL problems and will only talk to me if I am on and anti depressant. (Which of course I haven't taken one I empty them out so he thinks I do).
Any ways after throwing some of my problems, the best thing to do is take some of your vacation days and start looking you probably are ready to move on and before you become a complete mental (broke like me) mess get out there before you say I wish I did.
Luckily I am beginning to see the Silver lining, court is wrapping up. I have a new job and so far so good keeping my fingers crossed. The boyfriend issue that is another project in the works. One day at a time (and a little bit of booze can go a long way) Good luck to you and hang in there it always gets worse before it gets better. Trust me from experiance. If you need to vent feel free to e-mail me..... Sometimes some good ol bitchin can really help. I know it just did for me!
2007-01-10 07:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your manager is the one that needs to be fired.
He is just testing u and trying to push u overboard.
If u like the job just put him on ignore and do your job well cause he has a boss over him also.
If u do not like the job, just look for another one, when u find one , then tell him to take the job and shove it.
2007-01-10 07:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up for a little longer...start applying to different places, because you boss seems like a real JERK! who thinks he is better than everyone, i know how you feel, you need to start looking for a new job, one with a good atmosfear
2015-07-28 12:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋