I hanged out with this girl for about four months. I deeply fall in love with her because she is warmed hearted, smart, sweet, and is a virgin. She's twenty four, I am twenty-nine. I plan to start a new life with her and my kid. So I decide to tell her the truth about me. Recently I told her that I am a single father with a kid. She did not get mad at me. However, she wanted to stop the relationship with me and she said that from now on she just want to be friend. What can I say to convince her that I really love her and that I want her to start a new life with me and my kid?
2007-01-10 06:53:47 · 30 answers · asked by funguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you brought this on yourself..you should've told her the first time you spoke...now she can't trust you.she's probably wondering what else you are not telling her.any other secrets you have laying around you should confess now.give her time and if you really do love her you have to wait.that's not an easy thing to deal with.she's not ready to be a mom.plus she's probably wondering wether or not you are gonna be a good dad to her kids when she marrys you after all you did forget to mention what should've been the most important thing about your life....give her some time to think..but keep in touch with her and don't pressure her..also let her know how you really feel and the plans you have for your future lifes together.good luck!
2007-01-10 07:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Digz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women get turned off at the thought of the man that they are dating having a child and I'm sure you already know that. I would just sit down and talk to her about it. And if she still just wants to be friends then it really is your choice. You never know if after a time she might feel better about the whole situation and maybe you could start dating again, but I think that the best thing for now is to give her time to think things through and maybe find out what is on her mind. Just let time take it's course. If it's meant to be it will happen.
2007-01-10 07:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both are old enough to chose, maybe she didn't feel that she want to be with a single dad with a kid, and she is virgin so she want a normal life with man without a kid..
she have all the right to tell u go away from my life because i never deserve u that u have a kid ..it's not her fault or anyone..
so let her think what to chose and don't force her to be with u, maybe the truth is become like a shock to her and after four month is so much, u must never hide something from her first OK.. so good luck and keep searching for a single mom and have a kid.. go ahead don't touch a virgin women..bye
2007-01-10 07:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't know if there is much you can say. I mean, obviously, she has some issue with the kid.
I would try to talk to her about it and find out exactly what the issue is. Perhaps tell her how much you love her and perhaps you two can come to some sort of compromise as to whatever issue she has with the kid. Personally, I would prefer not to be involved with someone with a child from a previous relationship but if I liked her enough and think we had something special, then I wouldn't end a relationship over it.
2007-01-10 06:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You went four months not being honest with her, for one thing. You're not who she thought you were, and she doesn't want to continue to have a relationship with you.
She probably also isn't into the idea of an instant family. Especially if she's a virgin at 24, she probably has particular ideas about what she wants her marriage and family to be like. That's her choice (and it should have been a choice she was allowed to make months ago). Your kid isn't going to go away, so nothing you can change there.
2007-01-10 07:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say or show that you haven't already. You should have told her this before you got serious with each other. She needs time to think. She's looking at it like you lied to her and deceived her by not telling her sooner, and she probably hadn't considered a future with you and another child that isn't her own, so that's two things she needs to consider. She may or may not come back around. You have to accept what she decides. It doesn't matter if you agree with her reasoning or not. She has to be happy with her own decisions. Don't try to sway her. If she really loves you and wants to be with you and your child, she will be back.
2007-01-10 07:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my section that's way too quickly. Who is acquainted with how issues will pan out for her and your husband. This surpassed off to me too. My husband left me for some different person, the very next day without my knowledge or consent he presented them to her. They got here homestead very quiet and perplexed and damaged down. So, 3 weeks later they chop up up!! He got here homestead and we tried to fix the damage and tear. Too late, the damage and tear changed into carried out, we may be sitting down at a meal and between the little ones might want to pipe up 'daddy, once you lived with *****' etc. we are not mutually and my daughter wets the mattress on an prevalent foundation. He needs to allow the little ones get used to the separation first earlier he throws yet another party into the blend! His priority must be their needs, not attempting to act like each and everything is an same and also you and the b**** are interchangeable. also he needs to be particular that his relationship such as her is for genuine because the little ones will save in recommendations her lengthy after he's attempting to kick over the strains of what he's carried out.
2016-12-02 02:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is prejudiced by the idea that you have a child, she probably isn't the sort of person you would want to have a relationship with anyway. My parents split up recently and my dad got a new girlfriend but she didn't like the idea of him having children so she did all she could to stop us from wanting to see him - everything from swearing at us to making us do all the housework - and it worked. You obviously wouldn't want anything like that to happen to you and your child and she doesn't want a relationship with you any more; just leave it.
And I'd have to echo the others, I'm afraid, please learn to use proper grammar!
2007-01-10 07:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you should have been honest with her from the beginning because now she may feel like you were lying to her, or she may be against dating someone with a child, she may be scared of having to deal with "baby mama drama" Tell her that you are sorry you did not tell her from the beginning but you were scared of losing her and you really want to do whatever it takes to make things right
2007-01-10 06:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you lied about this fact beforehand, I would hope if there were true feelings there, a child wouldn't change that. Tell her your intentions and persue her until she leaves you with no choice but to move on. Good luck.
For future references, it's best to lay the cards out on the table BEFORE the game begins!
2007-01-10 06:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋