2007-01-10 06:53:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, doesn’t always mean your relationship is over.
Are you comfortable with yourself being naked? Are you comfortable with him?. Can you two stand naked in front of each other? If not, well.. that might be one of the problems.
Or maybe you just need to spice of things
The guy may have to learn how to push your buttons.
Rather then jump right into the sack and start going at it. Slow down. Tell him how you want to be touched, or better yet show him. If you don’t know… you need to learn by yourself so you can show him later.
Foreplay helps. And, no not cop a feel a few minutes before hand.
I mean, start out when you wake up in the morning.. Tease each other, get dressed in front of him, but do it in an erotic way. Mayby leave some dirty voice mails through out the day or notes around the house. Have one note lead to a sexy pair of panties or some other fun thing…maybe something you want him to wear? I do this for my girl and she loves it. I leave notes leading to some sexy new Lingerie.. ya know.. stuff like that..
So when you get home you both are hot and bothered, but continue the teasing.
Once the dude gets you into bed he can’t be like little jack corner and stick it in right away. Teach him how to kiss you, how to touch you. IF he can’t figure it out show him, turn a 20 minute love section into 4 or 5 hours. Or more…
Once he learns how to push the right buttons you’ll be enjoying yourself again.
2007-01-10 07:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite a normal thing for a lot of people. Stress can be one factor for this. If you're a bit stressed either physically or emotionally, though the sex was consentual and welcome by you, you might not be ready to "get off".
Also, sometimes we men do have the swings of early or late ejaculation. It definitely isn't very consistent. So, it just might be that his orgasms are happening earlier than yours.
And if you're conscious about the fact that the previous time you had sex you didn't actually "get off", it probably is weighing heavily as you experience sex, and may be that's like a distraction away from your orgasm.
At the very least, you either know if the relationship is good or it isn't. I don't believe your ability to "get off" will be a true indicator of how the relationship is. So, if you believe the relationship is good, and you guys enjoy sex the right way, you'll eventually get over this problem. It doesn't hurt to run this question by your gynec as well.
2007-01-10 07:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is, always has been, and forever will be about how comfortable you are: with him, with yourself, surroundings...
Sex isn't like a key and lock, there a million little things that might work, and then those sometimes need to be changed and improved...
What you need to do is figure out what you like and then show him. Talking is the best thing to do - not necessirily dirty talking, but just before and after pillow talk.
Basically, you have to make him understand that the better he gets you off, the better he will be treated afterwards...but when you get your groove back, don't forget to reward the little guy :)
2007-01-10 07:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by superinteligent shade of blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt mean the relationship is not good if you two have all the feelings for each other and love each other then you will find a way around his bad sexual experiences and help him find a way to cure that problem, but no that doesnt mean u guys cant continue the relationship ya kno
2007-01-10 06:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he doesn't find you attractive sexually or he has a medical problem. Have him see a doctor or leave him and move on.
2007-01-10 07:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just not hitting your spot
have him lick the kitty. I am sure you will get off then
2007-01-10 06:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good but the exitement is lost.....try new things once in while if you keep repeting things after a while it gets old and sour
2007-01-10 06:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Orlando 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ,it just means dat u need to tell him so that ya'll can work on it
2007-01-10 06:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sexyluva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how important an orgasm is to you.
2007-01-10 06:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Stuey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a different c**k to f**k
2007-01-10 06:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋