Theres this dude i went out with for awhlie i really got to know him and he was really funny.he was always there for me until one day he stopped talking to me and i don't know why and now its been 3 months we haven't said a word to each other.i wanted to talk to him but i get scared and i just can't do.i wouldn't know what to say to him.he really made me happy.we have 2 classes together and all he can do is just stare at me and not say he's sorry for hurting me.so i need help on if i should talk to him or not.sometimes i think about him and think how in the world did this happen???on the other hand im thinking of not dating another guy until i find the right one that is if there is one.so pretty please can someone help me with this situation?
2007-01-10 06:44:31 · 15 answers · asked by Umeko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is sort of funny because Im in the same predicament. I sometimes wonder if I should talk to him again, think maybe he feels the same way, maybe he misses me too. Then I think, what if he's doing fine without me, what if he never wants to speak to me again. Thats what stops me. Guys are afraid of showing what they feel, I have learned that even if they do miss you and feel the same way they do theyre going to act like they dont because theyd rather suffer than look like a pussy. Maybe he does miss you, but Id let him be the first to talk. You dont want to let him know that you miss him. Guys like a little mystery, and girls who are harder to get. I dont really know how to explain myself.
Hope I helped, love.
Good luck!
2007-01-10 06:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie_ is_ bomb. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how upsetting your situation must be because he left you hanging without any reason. You have a right to know why he did this to you. I would want and need to know if it were me. I think I would politely strike up a conversation with him face to face and then at the right opportunity nicely nail him with the question saying "you though you both were doing real well together and you just left me hanging so I was wondering what exactly happened?"
I think your are a very wise person from reading your last comment about not dating anyone until you find the right one However if you don't date then you will never know if he is right or not.
2007-01-10 06:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to miss someone or something you have had time to enjoy & get attached to.
What are you wanting to get out of all of this is what you need to ask yourself.Only the 2 of you know exactly what was happening,to this point.Now you want what ????
An appology?
reunited?
What was really there as a relationship?
stay friends & move on ?
Does he know he has hurt you ?
Only you can make the choice as what you want to do...and why you want to do it...being careful & backing off can give everyone invovled time to think
over their feelings etc.
2007-01-10 06:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by justnanous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he made you happy then try talkin to him the worst he can do is ignore u or say he dont wanna talk, but seriously on the part of not datin ne one that could be a good thing and a bad thing if you find somethin u think will work go for it and if it has a chance of hurtin u then dont cause your heart will be broken...but if he feels the same way then try it again..maybe second time works better sometimes does
2007-01-10 06:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And so he gave you sbsolutely no explanation for just shutting you out cold turkey, huh? I would ask him one time why he just stopped talking to me, wait for a response, and let it be. How he answers that question will determine whether the conversation goes any further. If it's not the answer you were looking for, move on. you won't know if there are "good" guys out there if you don't get back into the dating scene. Good luck.
2007-01-10 06:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I mean i miss my ex right now but I wouldn't talk to them because i feel he stop talking to me for a dumb reason which was no reason at all. If you talk to him its going seem like you all on his nuts and you don't want to boost the male ego.
2007-01-10 06:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Snoopy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wanted you back he would of been made the effort. I would just relax and wait for the right guy...he's definitely out their just be patient and concentrate on doing good in school.
2007-01-10 06:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go and move on. It maybe hard, but he obviosly wasn't into you or he'd still be around. Give yourself some time to get past it. The next time around remember, love isn't how it is in the movies.
2007-01-10 06:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by imagr00vychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont tell him..thats the end.. this aint like your bf of long time .. then u probably could talk it out . see basically this guy is not into you.. he might have bin funny and all that but seriously get over him or you'll get hurt and depressed ~~ its just a matter of time and you'll have guys chasing you.. so chill.. forget this guy.. he might even intentionally smile at you ,so that u keep liking him like a puppy dog but dont fall for it. ignore him.. full onn.. u go girl !!
2007-01-10 06:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him ask what happened why he stopped talking to you.
If he doesnt want to talk to you then you will need to just move one forget him.He must have issues.
2007-01-10 06:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋