I've been trying to win the affection of a certain someone but it looks like it's gonna take awhile, but theres this other guy that really wants to be with me, should i forget my pursuit and give this other guy a chance?? I really don't know what i should do, i'm so confused.
2007-01-10 06:43:37 · 41 answers · asked by word4word 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one knows how you or the other people invovled feel better than the 3 of you. I say you tell your crush how you feel and if you arent satisfied then be realistic. If he doesnt want you now then chances are he wont soon. Dont be afraid to go all out to get the things you want but also dont be afraid to explore and try things you didnt think you wanted. The guy who wants you could be a great guy and be great for you whether you end up in a long-term relationship or not. I know I just gave you advice but really, you should trust your own insitinct. No one who posts an answer here knows the situation or knows the people involved. Good luck.
2007-01-10 06:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by daschund delight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to win anyone's affection. No one is worth that much. Just be yourself and turn the cards around. Why should he not consider being with you? If he just wants another sex bimbo, why would you want to be with a man like that anyway? Dont waste your time. Time is precious. There will be plenty of guys who'll want you for your sex, but not so many who'll love you for who you are. An excellent judge of a man's character is noticing how he treats everyone else. If he talks to them with respect and sincerity, he's the man you should choose. You choose your path and you'll learn something either way and it'll change you and make you wiser.
2007-01-10 06:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by roya67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to follow your heart on this one. Will you be happy to settle for the guy that wants you or would you be happy waiting around for the other guy? You just have to figure this one out yourself. If you don't want to wait for the one that you are trying to win and you want to see where it goes with the guy that is after you affections then go for that one. Can you really sit back and watch the guy that you really care for go after another girl? If you don't see where he is going to give you the same attention that you are giving him, then maybe you need to forget about him and let him see you with someone else. Sometimes it helps if the guy that you care for sees that you aren't sitting around waiting on him. You might find true happiness with the guy who wants your affections. Hope this helps.
2007-01-10 06:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart- if you don't feel anything for this man that is pursuing you, then don't waste your time and his too. On the other hand if you are pursuing someone and he is still not interested, just drop it- there is nothing worse than annoying admirer. Put it this way, if you made clear to someone that you are not interested and he was still after you, would that make you wanna be with him? I doubt it- it can actually become a big turn off.
2007-01-10 06:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him a chance..but do that with all your heart.It isnt fair on him if you're giving him a chance only coz the guy you're pursuing is takin long.Get your feelings in order.Dont make the guy 'a compromise',or its gonna turn out bitter for both of u in th end.Good luck
2007-01-10 06:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop living your life while waiting for someone else to come around. What if you turn this other guy down and the guy you want never comes around...or he starts dating someone else? Then you are left alone. If you like this other guy, go for it...see what happens. It could be that you and this guy are meant to be together. Plus..if this guy you like does care for you, it'll make him get off his butt and work for your affection knowing that he has some competition.
2007-01-10 06:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by skybelle24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely, the prospect is slender. He better than likely stopped chatting with you for an same reason he felt he ought to inform you so you might basically be acquaintances. both you've been being very ahead/flirty (not particular as i'm unfamiliar with the problem) yet I pretty doubt he's reconsidering. Your decision from right it truly is do you want to be acquaintances or might want to be being acquaintances too demanding because you've thoughts for him? in case you won't be able to be basically acquaintances, it is better to go away it on my own. i understand that's type of demanding to hearken to, yet regrettably it really is better than likely what that's.
2016-12-02 02:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your pursuit and give this other guy a chance
2007-01-10 06:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go and stop trying to win this guy affection. Let this other guy in because he like you. You never know he could be the one.
2007-01-10 06:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...how do you feel about the dude that actually wants you? If you're not into him, then don't settle, just for the sake of saying that you have some. As for the dude who you're trying to win, don't get to a point where you begin to look desperate. It's one thing to have a crush and another thing to look like a pathetic girl, who's into a dude that isn't into her. Feel me?
2007-01-10 08:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jay's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋