I saw a girl at church and wanted to meet her but didn't get a chance. I sat down by my friend where I always sit and she was right there to. She knows my friend.
I was going to go attend a dance class but didn't get to go last week. I asked a friend if there was any girls there that I could partner up with and when he told me who showed up for the first time last week I realized it is the same girl. I will be going to the dance class tonight and she will be there
I attended a Bible Study that she is apart of. I might go on a regular basis. She wasn't there that night and I was glad becuase I would have been nervous.
I have yet to have the courage to meet her. But the circumstances with where I sat in church and the dance class are kinda cool and totally circumstantial ( or is it fate). I attended the Bible study knowing she would be there and partially cause I wanted to meet her. Is this too weird and stalkish?
2007-01-10 06:37:04 · 8 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO it's not being a stalker. You're just trying to see her and get to know her better....and to "just happen" to run in to her. I think it's cute.
Now, if you start following her everywhere and breaking in to her house and raiding her panty drawer, then yes, that's stalking. So far, it does not seem like you have reached that point.
2007-01-10 06:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. People get WAY too hung up on the "stalker" term. How do you think people meet to begin with? You have an interest in meeting her, and are therefore trying to find an opportunity to do so. Okay, great! People have to meet somehow, don't they? They don't just automatically know each other! Think logically about what you're saying...doesn't SOMEONE have to make the first move in order for each other to meet and possibly go on a date? My dad met my mom doing the exact same type of thing as you, and now they've been married 45 years.
Stalking is when you deliberately monitor her and push your way into her life AGAINST HER WISHES. If she makes it clear she's not interested, then back off. If you feel compelled to continue to pursue her and obsessively gather information about her and her whereabouts in the process, THAT is stalking.
2007-01-10 14:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Bzl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only stalkish if you ask her out and she says no and you carry on the same behaviour.
This is called romance, when you pretend to keep meeting in different places at the same time. All guys do it - its our hunter nature (ps Never ever ever tell this girl what you are doing, ever)
2007-01-10 14:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by fizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may appear that way to her if you don't talk to her. Introduce yourself and start gettting aquainted with her. If you just keep showing up at places where she is, no matter how coincidental, she will classify you as a stalker. It is best to go ahead and put your fears aside and talk to her, invite her out for some coffee or something. Let things happen naturally with her, but not so naturally that you appear to be stalking her.
2007-01-10 14:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda, cause it seems like your planning your days around her which is kinda stalkish.
2007-01-10 14:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is stalking but dont do anything worse than that because then it will bee stalking
2007-01-10 14:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not stalking maybe god wants you both to come together but you have to bulid a courage so please do it before its too late its faith
2007-01-10 14:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by lil babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lend322: are you a freakin loser?
2007-01-10 14:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by ▲▼▲▼ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋