He's 18 and I'm 14.We go at the same highschool.We are togerher about 2 and a half months.Well the frst month everything was OK but the second month he starded act weird so I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said no and he said that he really loves me(he was looking into my eyes).
The last time I saw him he told me that he will celebrate new year with his friends in another city and that was fine by me 'cause I was going to celebrate new year with my 2 best friends.
At the night of new year I had a great time with my friends and I called him on his mobile just to say -happy new year- He answered the phone and I congrat him so does he and he said that he would call me tomorow to go out.I said OK and hung up.But he didn't call,he didn't even send me a message.It's been 10 days since then and he is still not calling.What should I do?I love him so much...Is he cheating on me?
2007-01-10 06:25:32 · 21 answers · asked by ☆christina☆ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's too old for you, he's an adult and you are a minor.
AND um, he hasn't called you in 10 days??
I am pretty sure it's over, dear.
You have plenty of time for guys.
I hope you didn't give it up to him, and then as soon as he got what he wanted he ran. What a jerk.
Move on dear, and respect yourself, you deserve much better. :)
2007-01-10 06:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a little strange that the first thing you think of is that he is cheating. If you really loved him I would think that the first thing you'd be worried about is wether or not he is ok......
That being said, the difference in your ages could be an issue....
4 years is not that big a deal in an adult relationship, but it is a very big deal when the 4 years legally defines one of the 2 people in the relationship as a minor.
Legally if the two of you have sex he could find himself in very big trouble. I am sure he knows this. It is going to be 3 years and more untill you are legally allowed to have sex......
I hate to rain on your parade, but he is NOT going to wait that long.
If he is not "cheating" now, he will eventually. It is not because he is a bad person or anything, 4 years is a LOT to ask......
Try to get him out of your head for awhile, hang out with friends or something......
If you really can't stand to be apart then ,IF he calls talk to him. Don't accuse him of cheating, just talk to him about what he has been doing. Try to get a sense of where he is at and proceed from there.
In truth I think the best advice would be to try to find someone your own age............. But I somehow doubt you want to hear that,
Good Luck with this.
2007-01-10 06:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by aural_exstacy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i always believe that a woman should rely on their instincts, because they are the ones that will guide her.
in this case, i think u should try and put together the facts and the gut feeling ur getting.
the second month he started acting weird, he didn't call u after new year's as he told u he would, he hasn't even sent u a text message. u said it's been 10 days. if anybody did that to u, it's just plain rude... and u seem to think that he's cheating on u... i can understand how. he's 18, gone to another city on new years, hasn't called.
i think u should just look at the facts as they are, and follow ur instincts... i'm not gonna lie, there is a chance that he may be cheating on u.
next time u see him at ur high-school, try to look at the way he's acting with u, if he seems uncomfortable, if he's in a hurry, if he's fidgeting, if he's avoiding ur look, what his answer to ur question will be (about why he didn't call)
u don't need to be a psychiatrist to be able to read body language.
just trust yourself!
2007-01-10 06:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Muse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think he is cheating on you...there is an 85% probability that you are absolutely correct in your suspicion. The real question is what is an 18 year old doing with a 14 year old? Are we to assume that he doesn't mind spending time in jail? And, why are your parents MIA(missing-in-action)?
As for love...ugh, love hurts! The good news, however, is that love is like a horse: no matter how many times you get thrown, you just get up, dust yourself off, and get back on as soon as you can. And, while you probably won't believe it now, the fact is you will probably fall in love at least five to twenty more times in your lifetime.
Send doofus out to pasture and find someone who cares enough to spend special moments like New Years with you.
2007-01-10 06:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys are notoroiously bad about returning calls, emails, etc. When a girl says "I'll call you tomorrow," it's a definite item on her to-do list for that day. When a guy says "I'll call you tomorrow," it means he'll call you the next time he has something specific to ask/tell you, which may not be for days or even weeks. They just have a definite concept of time.
Call him again and leave a message saying that you haven't heard from him in awhile and wanted to make sure he was okay. If he doesn't return that call within three days, write him off as a lost cause - he's lost interest in you and it's time for you to move on. If he does return the call, politely hint to him that he shouldn't offer specific time frames unless he is going to follow up on them.
2007-01-10 06:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might not be cheating, but it sounds as though he's no longer interested... 10 days in a 2 month releationship to not talk to someone is a really long time.
Also, I know you won't want to hear this... but you'll probably have better luck if you date guys closer to your own age; I can imagine why a 18yr old guy might be hesitant to stay in a releationship with a 14yr old.
Good Luck.
2007-01-10 06:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a big age difference if you both went to my school hed of been beaten up every single day. Honestly yes i reckon he will be cheating o u But my god forget boyfriends go out and have sum fun with your girl friends while your still young thats the whole point you dont have to worry about realtionships and crap your only 14 god wait till your 16 at least!!
2007-01-10 06:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, the best instinct a woman has is her instinct. Sorry to say, but if you think he's cheating on you, he probably is :( Sorry. You deserve better. Your 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you so don't settle for a dog. Leave him alone. if he hasn't called you in 10 days, move on. You deserve to be loved and appreciated and treated with respect and you should be able to honestly communicatate and trust you boyfriend; so this guy isn't "Mr. Right."
2007-01-10 06:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by cottontail34@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear wake up. You are just 14 (as you said).. its not love.. its a crush. He might be loosing his interest in you for a while for a number of reasons; but if you are beautiful, he wont leave you too soon. I think that answers your question if you are wise; & if you dont understand, then stop thinking about him & concentrate on your studies & school.
2007-01-10 06:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
uh yeah....that is pretty obvious! There is a big difference in 18 and 14....I think that you need to just leave him alone. Don't call and don't answer if he ever calls
2007-01-10 06:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋