Was I wrong or being mean?

Question

Ok. Last night I called my guyfriend and I heard him pick up but he didn't answer it sound like he was fidgeting with the phone and heard him press a button and I kept saying hello. So I called backed and his phone rung 2x's and went to his vm. So I called him today while he was @ work. I asked him why he sent my call to vm. He said that he didn't and in some areas he don't get a signal. I told him when I called him the 1st he answered and I kept saying hello. The 2nd time it rung 2x's and went to your vm. He kept telling me that it was the area that he was working in and he wasnt getting good reception. Anyway he was at work so he said that'll he call me right back which he did. Well I asked him again and he said again that it was bad reception. I asked him why he's lying and he said he wasn't. So anyway he got frustrated with me and I was like I got to go bye. My thing is if he's telling the truth, why is he upset? Also, he knows about my past and I'm leary of what people tell.

I left him a msg not to long ago stated that if I'm wrong, I apologize but I heard what I heard. I'm not trying to play games nor do I want any games to be played with me. If you're telling the truth then why are you upset? You know my past, which you don't have nothing to do with but you know that I'm skeptical.

Bitter no --- untrusting yes.

Not violating his space. I may have over-acted though. I did apologize. As I stated before - the 1st call didnt got to his vm - he picked up.

Everyone has issues. I did apologize to him. Hell he has issues too. No one is perfect.

Answer 1

Calm down! First, if you really don't trust him you need to end the relationship. But you need to ask yourself if you don't trust him or if you don't trust anyone. If it's the latter you need to do some work on yourself before you get into a relationship.

It's totally true that some people can't be trusted. You're going to run in to them regardless of how careful you are. You need to get to where you know you can trust YOURSELF to deal with those people. Your own strength and knowing that even if someone lies to you you'll be OK will go a long way in being able to trust someone.

That said, when you KNOW someone is lying to you you have to decide if you want them in your life. They can't lie to you if you don't talk to them.

Answer 2

Maybe you are reading too much into this. He probably is telling the truth. Cell phones aren't good in certain areas. I would get a little irritated too if someone kept asking me the same thing and I was being truthful about it. I know you had a bad experience in your past, but you are never going to have a successful relationship if you don't trust the other person.

Answer 3

You were definitely wrong because I have had the same thing happen to me when people have tried to call me. It always happens to me on the same stretch of road in my area. If I am on the phone I warn the person that I am talking to. It is at the point that if I tell my best friend that I am on this particular road she says "call me back when your out of that area or if she calls she'll ask me if I was on that road. He is probably upset because he fells that you are calling him a liar. You must learn to trust people, until they give you a reason not to and not the other way around. If I were you I would apologize and leave it at that because he most likely is telling the truth.

Answer 4

He's just a guyfriend, he's not your boyfriend. He doesn't have to answer to you and if he is lying then yeah that sucks but it's not the end of the world. I think you are reading way too much into this. I think he was telling the truth and he's probably upset because you're doubting him and calling him a liar. Get over it. It's just a phone call!!!

Answer 5

You were wrong. I have been on both ends of a call like that. If he answered and was fidgeting with the phone it's possible that he was saying hello and trying to figure out why he couldn't hear you. It is also possible that the signal was not good.

He's getting upset with you because you don't believe him. You are calling him a liar when he is being truthful. No one likes to be called that. If he was lying he wouldn't be upset.

Answer 6

Ok.. I worked at a cell phone company for 7 years. This is completely NORMAL. Its called a call drop or a one way conversation, where you can hear the other person, but they cant hear you. Just because you could hear him crystal clear does NOT mean he could hear you!!! Its probably a bad voice channel and the MOST he can do about it is report it to his cell phone provider. They will need the exact location of where he was and what time it was and they can figure out what channel he was on and fix the problem. I would worry about him "lying" this happens all the time.

Answer 7

My phone does that sometimes. I'll go to answer a call and if I have bad reception, they can kinda hear me, but I can't hear them... then they'll call back and it will go to vm. I think he could be telling the truth... and to give him the benefit of the doubt. Just apologize to him and move on... :-)

Answer 8

You sound bitter and untrusting.
I can understand if something was up but.. you do know that if you call and it goes to VM and you hang up and call back that you will again go right back to VM.
Just calm down a little... let the man talk

Answer 9

Okay girl did he call you back though is the question. If he called you right back after his call failed then yeah he maybe telling the truth. But if their was a delay in returning your phone call then he is lying. Some calls do drop because of a bad signal but you can move into another area with no problem and call back. So did he call you back that day?

Answer 10

I don't know the whole story but if he is just a friend then you shouldn't care were he is and alot of cellular service doesn't work in some areas maybe he was busy and wanted your message but couldn't talk. Give him the benefit of the doubt that way you will keep a friendship. Don't let all your friends fall because of one bad relationship.