My co-worker's sister is getting married in a few months, and I just received my bridal shower invitation in the mail. Here's my dilemma: I just put in my two-week notice. A great job opportunity fell into my lap and I couldn't pass it up. I know that she invited me prior to putting in my notice, but now I'm not sure what I have to do. The people that I work with are like a second family, but I feel a little weird attending the shower, much less the wedding, since I will no longer work here. What should I do?
2007-01-10 06:18:27 · 15 answers · asked by Koko Loco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your choice...there is no right or wrong here since it is not actual family...so do what you want to do....
2007-01-10 06:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned these people were like a second family for you. Being that close, I'm sure they understand you quitting your job is a choice you made to better support yourself & therefore they should support you in the decision as well. Just because you quit your job doesn't mean you quit your friendships there. You just vanishing after being considered a friend is worse than you attending a wedding shower of a former co-worker. And if you really feel weird about it, talk to your friend & explain how you feel.
2007-01-10 14:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the bride-to-be personally, or were you invited because you're the friend of the sister and the BTB knows nothing about your invite?
If it's the latter, send your regrets. The BTB won't ever know the difference.
If the former, then by all means attend - who cares if you're leaving the company. Its not like you're attending the shower of your boss or something! Have a good time and enjoy the fact that you have the opportunity to share in the happiness of another.
2007-01-10 14:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't put yourself in an uncomfortable situation, firstly. If you're afraid of it being awkward or feel uneasy about it, don't go. However, like you said...the people you've worked with have been like a second family to you. You want to show that you care and share your best wishes. Be sure to RSVP and let your co-worker's sister know that you won't be able to make the shower/wedding. Send a nice card, and send a gift to each.
2007-01-10 14:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by ladyfish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because this lady will no longer be a co-worker doesn't mean you cannot associate with her. I would go to the shower and wedding, if you'd like to, or send a gift if you'd rather not attend.
2007-01-10 14:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the shower! Since these people are like second family to you, remember, family is forever, jobs come and go. Have fun!
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2007-01-10 14:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are also friends outside of work. Go to the shower, go to the wedding.
2007-01-10 15:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by traysea303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the shower and the wedding. There is no conflict.
2007-01-10 17:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are close to these people as you say yourself, you have to go. Just because you quit the job does not mean you have to get rid of the friend you made while there
2007-01-10 14:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you consider these people friends beyond work, I would say go and have a great time!
2007-01-10 15:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friendship goes beyond the office, then continue it and go. If not, then the invitation wasn't really kosher to begin with, and politely decline.
2007-01-10 14:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by Jessy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋