ive been with my partner for 6 years hes lovely,but we we really are not getting on and havent for over 12 months.hes 45 im 26 we want different things.we nearly split up i went as far as renting a house but didnt leave as we got really upset.i care for him but cant help wondering if the grass is greener but then feel guilty for thinking that way.what do i do? am i just being selfish?
2007-01-10 06:10:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not being selfish, but I beleive you should follow your heart.
Forget the rubbish people are saying about the age gap, if you love and care for each other then its not a problem. Maybe you have grown apart??
How about a holiday somewhere, one final roll of the dice just the two of you. After the holiday if things are still not improving then maybe its time to face the music.
Feel free to email me if you want to chat more of want to ask my opinion.
Good luck, follow your dreams.
2007-01-10 06:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are just being a 26 year old. Things have been bad for the past 12 months? It's time to move on. You admit you both like different things. You can stay if you want, but it's just a matter of time before you leave. The grass is never greener on the other side. Every relationship is great for the first 6 months. You have to understand that any guy you find there is going to be problems. It's how the relationship grows. You should do yourself a favor and let that man go. Good luck.
2007-01-10 14:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not being selfish, there is such an age difference of course you two are going to want to do different things. I think it is time to stop feeling guilty - after 6yrs and your only 26 - girlfriend you have a long life ahead of you to be strapped in like this since you were 20. I shure wish I was 26 again - there are a lot of hunks out there.
2007-01-10 14:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him.If you even have to ask these questions in the first place then it's time to go!There is no future in this relationship,especially if you want different things.You're not being selfish-he deserves someone who has the same plans for life!Yes he will be hurt,yes you will feel guilty,but he will move on and so will you.Maybe you'll even be friends.Twelve months is a long time to have problems..don't make it any longer!
2007-01-10 16:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough one.
You were 20 when you got together and he was 39. You knew what you were getting into even at that time. A relationship is based on talking and togetherness. You really need to talk with him and work it out if you really want to stay with him.
Being selfish might have a little to do with the matter but in every relationship it's a give and take thing. You have to be willing to give up in order to get some of the things you want.
Talk with him or your life together is doomed.
2007-01-10 14:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you are being selfish. There is a big age gap between the two of you. So of course you are going to want different things. I think maybe you should just let him know that you need a break from him to explore your other options. You still young girl. I say take a breather and if all you can think about is him then deal with it.You will work it out though.
2007-01-10 14:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by broke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you realy do have to wake up,,,your 25 and at the prime of your life with every lad of your age i bet just gagging to take you out. i know nowadays there is an age diff, i'm 9 yrs older than er indoors and i still have small regrets, anyway what im trying to say is if your totally settled with the idea that your child has a father old enuff to be its grampy fair doos. but can i be a fly on the waal when you tell it that its your dad....../
2007-01-10 14:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by "THE WISE ONE" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some space. You have been together with this guy for 6 years. So you must of got ttogether when you were 20 years old. If you are feeling that way about him and the relationship I would just call it quits for right now. You are still young and need to experience things. He needs to understand that.
2007-01-10 14:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people with significant others so far apart in age want different things in life. when you were 19, were your wants and desires the same as when you were 26? will they be the same when you are 35? ,.. or even 45?
think about what you REALLY want and pray to your god for strength. best of luck and persevere.
2007-01-10 14:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The grass may very well be greener on the other side of the fence, but it's just as tough to cut!
2007-01-10 14:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋