I was with my ex for almost two years. Those two years were hard on the both of us. We fought a lot. I broke up with him. He is now with another girl and has pretty much been with her since we broke up. We were getting to where we were ok with each other but she got into it and now all he does is fight with me. I dont think that he really cares for this girl but he doesnt want to be with me right now. He tells me that he doesnt see it going anywhere with her and that they "never fight but you cant really fight when all you do is talk on the phone". But she got mad at him and all of a sudden he is a jerk and now magically they are serious and now he is threatning to take Brendan. I love my son I have had him his whole life and I am the one who has taken care of him. I dont want him to take my son. I am not working but I am getting assisstance, I live with my parents and I am looking for a job.
2007-01-10 06:06:41 · 16 answers · asked by bswbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go back. Trust your past judgements when you two -were- togeher. You broke up with him for a reason, now you need to leave the man who made you happy and sad, feel great and break your heart, go. Just let him go. You also say you're afraid. Real love and a healthy relationship should never include fear. No one should ever be afraid of the one they love, just afraid of hurting them or not makin them happy enough. You owe it to yourself and your son to find someone better.
2007-01-10 06:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your ex is not mature for any relationship just yet.. I would definitely not peruse any relationship with him until he proves to you he has matured and has chosen you as his wife and the woman he wants to live with and be a family with.
Make sure he knows what is responsibilities will be to you and your son, and that he will hold on to those responsibilities.. do not take anything less.. He must support you and your son emotionally as well as physically, he cannot go back and forth with a second or third wife or girlfriend. If he cannot make and will not make a definitely and clear decision to want to be with you and your son for a lifetime, then let him go on his way. Do not move in with him, if he asks you too without some kind of definite commitment from him.. Love is not enough.. not when you have a small child to consider.. Have hope, do not give up no matter what and good things will happen. You have the support of your parents, if you can get an education, as the same time that you are working, please do so, you will be helping yourself, in more ways than one, to be financially secure and independent. I wish you Good luck.. and Happiness and one day soon a Good Man and Family.
2007-01-10 06:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is doubtful that he will be able to take your son unless he can prove to the court that you are psychically abusive to your son and that is almost impossible to do.
The courts will always award custody to the mother and she will always get the benefit of the doubt.
You really don't have anything to worry about.
But the same cannot be said for your son, because he is going to suffer a lot over this for a very long time to come.
No child wants to grow up in a broken home, and if you don't believe that then just ask them.
2007-01-10 06:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a rocky 2 years with this guy, he got with someone else as soon as you broke up, now you are fighting all the time and you want him back? What are you thinking? That it's going to magically get better?
You've got your son to think of as priority number one. Drop this deadbeat and move on with your life. Unless you really mess up, it's unlikely he'll be able to take your son from you. Forget him, get a job and move on with your life.
2007-01-10 06:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's with another woman. and appears to be happy, leave it a alone or do you want to be the other woman!!!! Or do you want to appear on Jerry Springer!!!! I'd have to say get over it you will have to realize you can love someone and not be in love with them. I still love my ex wife but I know we could not ever live together. At least not for very long. Let your heart heal !!! if you are both single then you might try it. But not now.
2007-01-10 06:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by tired of the games 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you continuing to "love" someone whom you feel threatened by(taking my son)? Unless you are a complete misfit, your child will not be taken from you, you have family support and you are willing to work. Just do it, and move on with your life, because the one you have with the ex is not healthy and will not work. Why would you want it to work if you fought all the time? I think you are confused about what "love" is all about, there are not strings attached if you love someone and they truely love you back.
2007-01-10 06:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot truly love someone you have to fear! Were you ever married? Did you have custody set? Is he on the birth certificate? All of this will affect what you need to do to keep sole custody of your Son. We would need this info in order to help you further. Some good advice...get things legal with your Son as soon as you can so you never ever have to worry about it again! Then tell him to kiss your _ _ _!
2007-01-10 06:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he broke your heart never trust him again girls that do things like that make other girls look bad and if this is such a big dilema for you then you must not be very close to your current boyfriend since you arent confident enough in your feelings for him to know you arent going to fall for someone else. someone who already hurt you. im sure you'll see him between classes? maybe you guys could share a locker. hang out on weekends and after school? its not like he'll completely disappear from your life because you dont have classes. if you love/like the boyfriend youre with now it shouldnt be a problem at all.
2016-05-23 05:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you very clear ,hes not into you anymore .
I think you in denial .
And for the child Brendan its easy said then done ,taking him away from you .So relax .
get your life together for you and your son ,and wish your ex many happiness ,be a bigger person ,because now you sound desperate ,there plenty good man out there.
2007-01-10 06:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want this guy back? You need to spend more time working on raising your son, getting a better job and moving out and less on that loser!
2007-01-10 06:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by SassySister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋