I have a boyfriend that lives in Florida. I really like him, and he says he's not cheating but I have a really strong feeling that he is. What should I believe?
2007-01-10 05:49:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would listen to your heart, your gut, your intution. It has never failed me. In your heart you know. As a guy if I was cheating I would never admit it. Who would? I personally think that cheating ultimately just makes for 2 bad relationships. I am sure there are more signs that you have noticed to feel this way. Write them all down and evaluate logically and listen to your heart. Personally I would make a surprise visit and see how that goes down. A good old knock at the door when he is not expecting you will tell you everything you every wanted to know I am sure. Otherwise there is always the TV show cheaters. They are great at catching people. There are many other ways to find out. Should you be able to see phone records? Does he suddenly work out more? Wear nice under wear. Is too busy to call. Call him up at 1am and say hi. Better to have peace of mind than wonder. Ultimately there are plenty of men who live in your town that will be there to take his place that will not pull BS and make you feel this way. I think you have to ask yourself if you do not trust him. What kind of future will your relationship have? Long distance is brutal and rarely works out. I wish you luck. Remember, you can always get a new man, but peace of mind is priceless.
2007-01-10 10:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mario L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of going through the same thing. My boyfriend doesn't live as far. A man can cheat if he is two miles or two hundred miles away. You need to just either ask him and stand your ground or let it be.
Sometimes insecurities are so strong that it can mess up your judgment. So just try at it and see what happens, at this point it can only drive you more and more insane not knowing the truth. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-10 12:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the kind of person you are. For example, do you find it hard to trust others? Do you usually feel that others are out to get you? Are you generally suspicious of others? If so, then you have trust issues and no matter who you are with near or far, you will always have the sense that they are cheating on you. Perhaps there is some counseling you could go to to find out why and to change your perspective.
However, I strongly believe in intuition. If you usually trust others and think that people are usually good and have not had problems believing or trusting past boyfriends, then your intuition could be telling you something.
Remember too, you are only dating, it's not like you are engaged or married.
2007-01-10 06:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is causing you to have this feeling. If he is doing things that are suspicious, then he could be. But if there really isn't anything out of the ordinary (AND if you've had similar feelings in the past with other boyfriends who weren't cheating) then you could just be insecure and paranoid.
2007-01-10 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a long distance relationship, odds are that your man is cheating on you. Why shouldn't he? He has all the opportunity and is unsupervised. Just assume that he is. I know I would be and I have in past long distance relationships. He would be a fool for not taking advantage of the situation you're giving him.
2007-01-10 05:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always tell if he is cheating on you.
1st he will get mad at you for no reason
2nd he will make up excuses for not going on a date with you
3rd he doesn't say I love you that offten
2007-01-10 05:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by chica loca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, he might as well be cheating. You should end the relationship, because you obviously aren't comfortable with it. Regardless of if he is or not, you still have insecurities, and that will eventually be your downfall.
2007-01-10 05:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by fill in the blanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS trust your instincts.I was married to a man who lied to me 6 years and told me i was stupid for thinking that way.After I left him I found out he was cheating the whole time.I wish I had trusted my instincts sooner.Move on with your life and you will find happiness!
2007-01-10 05:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by laurancarolina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does living in florida make you believe he is cheating?
i take it you do not live in florida.
does he not answer his phone a lot?
if so, ask him why, i hope he has a good reason
2007-01-10 05:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by vfrbgt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe your gut feeling and terminate the relationship, you don't need long-distance drama.
2007-01-10 05:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋