Me and the fiance had planned a lovely spring wedding but her mums interfering and audacity has led to me cancelling it, she was forever butting in, do this do that , no you should have this no you dont want that etc etc, but the boldest thing was last night i got a phone call to go round to her house "to discuss matters" well she only started going on about how i should make love to her daughter on our honeymoon, I dont want you being rough with her she said to me then told me to only do it in the missionary position, "not from behind" you dirty ol sod she added if she ever has an headache or just dont feel like it dont you force yourself, she added, i wouldnt anyway. I dont want you asking her to dress up in high heels and stockings either she added "though im gutted about that" she then went on to tell me to make sure she "O"s Then she said something about if i perform cunnilingus "whatever that is" to do it nice and gently. Is this woman fc uking sick or something?
2007-01-10 05:44:49 · 13 answers · asked by qcumber man 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who is this woman? Doesn't she realise that cunnilingus is gentle at first and then MUST get a little more rougher? I think that you should explain this to her.............
By the way, read your other questions......you are awful......but I like you
2007-01-10 06:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just can't help interfering...but keep in mind that you will not be marrying her...it's her daughter that you will have to live with.
Maybe you should discuss it with her, and see what she can do about it. You may want to consider eloping, and living far away from the interference.
In either case, it's how your intended deals with the situation that will determine if you should cancel or not. If she is more her mother's daughter than your wife...get far away now. If she wants the interference to end...then you have a good chance of making the marriage work.
You can not be seen as coming between her and her mother though. It's her choice, and she must arrive there on her own. She will resent you forever if you force her into a decision she is not ready to make.
But like I said, if she doesn't choose you, leave.
2007-01-10 05:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, im getting married this year and my mother in law is causing a bit of bother but none like yours if this is true what she is saying to you tell her to mind her own buisness, She is butting into you love life as well as your wedding plans. As my parents keep telling me it is our wedding and we can do what we like which is the way it should be. She is getting like this because she thinks she has the right because its her daugther, Have a word with you fiance and tell her to tell her mum to back of or the realtionship and marriage wont work.
Or failing that just you and you fiance go and see about getting married and get married in private it solves all the hassel. then once its done she cant say out. But you may need to sort it out sooner or later. You will want to get married in the future so i would sort it now.
2007-01-10 05:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your fiancee and want to stay with her, then you must stand up to her mother, for her sake as well as yours. She has no right to broach personal subjects with you, and she owes you an abject apology, although it's doubtful, from the sound of her, that she will have the grace to be ashamed of her behaviour.
You must be so angry with her but try not to let your fiancee suffer because of her mother's appalling behaviour.
I think you should tell her mother that you are extremely angry with her and that her interference has gone much too far. In your place, I would tell her that you can't speak to her for the time being and say that you don't want any contact from her, either for a set period such as six weeks, or until she is able to acknowledge what she's done and apologise to you both.
Maybe you shouldn't call off your wedding but just really put your foot down and tell your fiancee's mother that from now on, if anyone is going to be looking after your fiancee, it's going to be you, not her. She's made it obvious that she's willing to jeopardise her daughter's happiness and welfare by totally disregarding the rules of civilised, respectful behaviour. In future, you expect her to treat you and your fiancee with the respect that's due to you as independent adults. That includes respect for your privacy. I believe you need to lay down these rules and make sure she and others don't cross the line in future, otherwise she'll be giving you orders about how to bring up your children.
I have never heard of anyone taking it upon themselves to give detailed orders (not advice!) to someone else about their sexual activity and I have serious doubts about your fiancee's mother's mental health. I would recommend she goes to her doctor as it does sound to me as if she may be in need of some kind of professional treatment.
It would be best, too, if your fiancee would join with you in telling her mother all this - she has to realise she's not a little girl anymore and her mother has to realise that too. The two of you need to present a united front so that no-one can drive a wedge between you. Are you sure her mother wasn't actually hoping you would call off the wedding? My mother has used devious tactics in the past to get rid of boyfriends (of mine) that she didn't like, such as telling them on the first meeting what she would like them to give her for Christmas or on one occasion interrupting our phone conversation by shouting in the background that I had been saying x y and z about him, which I hadn't.
2007-01-10 06:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you can but save your fiance from her also. NO really what does you fiance think about this? I would probably have to call off the wedding also.
2007-01-10 05:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might desire to furnish you some good suggestion which will paintings. even nevertheless the common sense answer you pushed aside. you are able to desire to go out. you're fifty two and that i'm useful you look great. Why the heck might you marry a guy to pass in together with his mom? a woman you already had problems with while making plans the marriage (crimson FLAG) you probably did no longer say how old he's yet you are able to desire to have your act jointly by potential of now. base line, your mom in regulation does not like the assumption of you unfastened loading and residing there. Sorry to be harsh yet this is why she dose this to you. She enjoys her son and needs him to stay no longer you. Your husband is not at all going to side with you against MAMA. What you notice is what you get. If i replaced into you i may be attempting to extra perfect my existence and be self reliant so i do no longer could desire to stay with people who abuse me.
2016-11-28 02:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm... if this is true, the woman is rather odd. The word 'boundaries' comes to mind. She doesn't know what they are.
Marry the daughter, and move far, far away....
2007-01-10 05:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit odd to me, what does your prospective wife have to say about it? if she sides with her Mum, walk away!
2007-01-10 05:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Greybeard 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the old bird wants you for herself....
2007-01-10 06:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's insane, you shouldn't lie to her just because she's going to be your mother in law.
2007-01-10 05:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by go2bermuda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋