What are some good ideas or some tips that you can give me on a first date with a lady I met at a christian dating site. We have spoken on the phone, both want to meet, so what do you suggest I can do? In your experiences, what are some things to do, and things not to do?
2007-01-10 05:43:17 · 37 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No movie, you have no opportunity to get to know each other. Plan on meeting for lunch, and if it goes well you can decide to continue the date with a trip to the zoo, or a comedy club, or even bowling. Anything is better than sitting in a dark movie theater saying nothing. If it bombs, you can call it a night after eating.
Open doors for her. I know that sounds obvious or silly but a lot of guys don't do that any more and it's really nice and sweet when a guy does it. Compliment her on something most men would not notice, like the way her hair is styled or her shoes, shows you are paying attention. When she talks, look her in the eye and actually listen to what she is saying and show interest in it. If you can make a woman feel like she is the only thing in your vision, she will fall head over heels.
DON'T talk about your ex girlfriends, bad or good, and try not to let her get on the topic of her ex boyfriends either.
If it goes badly and you don't want a second date, just be clear that you enjoyed meeting her and and are happy to have made a new friend. Don't say you'll call her if you have no intention of doing so.
Oh, and if you screw up at some point, like walk into a telephone pole or fall on your butt, it's ok. If she likes you, that will become her fondest memory of you. My mom loves to tell about how when she first met my dad, he was walking on his hands to show off for her, and he misjudged how close he was to the pool and fell in. He was embarassed, she fell for him.
2007-01-10 05:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a gentleman open the door, pull out her chair. Let her pick the food she wants to eat when you guys get to the resturant. If you feel like flowers dont go with roses only that is so love storyish just pick out a nice small arrangement at the grocery store it will be cheaper than a floral shop, the flowers can be carnations, a rose or two but not red try for yellow or pink they seem to last a bit better and its easier to tell if they have been handled too much by the brown discoloration on the petals or simply pick a few single flowers and tie a ribbon around them. Agree on a place to go before meeting that way you dont overdress and have that add to the first meeting jitters that you will probaly have. If you are paying then suggest places that are reasonable priced, not too expensive fit your budget but not too cheap if you understand what im saying. Have a drink(if you drink) but not more than one that way you dont pour out your soul or look like a drunk, the drink will also help to calm you down ask if she would like something as well if you suggest a drink start off asking about wine then move down the line. If you ask about wine first instead of a drink made with liquor she wont think that you want to get her drunk to make a move or sleep with her versus asking her would you like to have a long island tea. Just relax and be yourself thats why she wants to meet you. Hope that helped you out some and break a leg(good luck)
2007-01-10 06:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would ask her to meet in a public place somewhere with your friends and her friends or a couple. You don't know how you both will act in front of each other, Talking on the phone and person is very different. Your friends can break the ice for the two of you instead of things being awkward. YOU DON'T WANT THAT ON A FIRST MEET. It will make you both comfortable anyway and if thing go good then theres a second date and if they go bad then hey you can blame it on bringing your friends home early then sitting like a mope saying to yourself "shes not the same in person" then on the phone i don't want to be here. And there are alot of strange people out there public is the best. dinner, drinks, bowling (i know boring) but a fun girl will be able to mix with anything then u know shes a keeper.
2007-01-10 05:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by kelcy129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about dinner at a nice restaurant where you can talk and get to know each other better? If you've spoken to her on the phone and on the website, you should have some idea of her interests, I'm assuming. Try to incorporate that, too.
Just be yourself, and don't overdo it with flowers and chocolates. That makes it look like you're trying too hard. Just be nice, friendly, and honest. Show interest in what she has to say.
2007-01-10 05:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by true tiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A casual lunch and perhaps a flea market or antique show.
A museum or gallery.
Window shopping in a small interesting town.
Coffee and window shopping.
Make it really relaxed and open. Do not go out on a first date somewhere quiet and isolated (movies etc) it may be too uncomfortable for the first date.
Have fun.
2007-01-10 05:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something low key, maybe lunch instead of dinner. that way if the date goes well you can do something after. bowling is fun and unlike the movies you can actually talk. if you are in an area where the weather is nice you can try a picnic, bike ride or roller blading. miniature golf is fun and some of those places have arcades with air hockey and foos ball. the most important thing is to be yourself and have fun.
2007-01-10 05:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by mo b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the movie: this should be about you two, talking and getting to know each other. I'm tempted to say, skip the dinner too, since it's formal and harder to escape if you two don't hit it off right away. What about having coffee and pastries or something light, then going for a walk in a park or along a river? Something beautiful. Then just talk to each other.
2007-01-10 06:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, is she competitive, fun-loving, reserved? I've been on some pretty cool first dates, but they're not for everyone. One was bowling. That was fun because I love a good friendly competition haha. Another one was the zoo. There's always the classic dinner and moonlit walk if she's more the quiet type. Good luck!! ;)
2007-01-10 05:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by beshi33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to eat at a nice restaurant. You guys can enjoy each other's conversation. If you run out of things to say, you can just keep eating. Have fun! and dont act weird cause u met on a christian dating site. be yourself.
2007-01-10 05:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by D. Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sweet, light, yourself. Be galant (open doors, pay for dinner or your other outings.)
The first date should be light. If you're meeting for a meal, make sure you go somewhere where you can talk (not a loud restaurant where you have to shout.) I wouldn't suggest a movie for a first date. You really want to put in some quality time.
Have fun!!!
Best.
2007-01-10 05:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋