me and this guy met on a cruise. we hung out since day one, but i never really noticed him until the 4th night. the 4th night we hung out the whole entire night just me and him talking about everything. and then he made it a point to make sure we were hanging out the next night. by the end of the 4th night we had layed together, and hooked up as well. he slept over that night, and the next night we hung out again. at one point he was in the casino, and my friend went to the casino and asked him to come hang out with us. sure enough, he came within 10 minutes and we hung out. me and him went to his room to be alone and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening in the moment. it was great, but he didn't talk much. after we had sex we walked to my room, and he was about to come in but his cousin walked past us, and asked if we wanted to go to the casino. so we went to the casino, and then i left to go lay down. he told me he'd come back, and he did to sleepover. the next night he came looking for me but my friend told him i was with another guy (which i wasn't). he supposedly got upset and didn't hang out with me the next two nights. i told him that i wasn't with another guy and everything got cleared up, and we hung out again. the whole entire night, me, him, and my best friend hung out. then my friend left with some guy, and me and this guy ended up hooking up again, and everything led to sex again happening in the moment. this time he talked a lot more, and he told me he wanted to do it with me for a long time. he constantly asked me if i was alright, and we acted like a couple, having a cute relationship. the next night we hung out the whole night and kissed goodbye. after the cruise he messaged me right away on myspace, and we kept messaging eachother back and forth until about october. i had visited him and he acted the same exact way he did on the cruise and he kissed me goodbye on the lips and everything. when i stepped outside for a minute, some guy even asked this guy where his girlfriend went. haha. at one point i thought this guy had been avoiding me because the computer does crazy things, so i messaged him and i was like..if you don't want anything to do with me..please don't write back..but he did write back explaining how of course we're still friends and he doesn't have a girlfriend. i happen to be going to college where he lives in august which was planned before i even met him. but now it's been 5 months after the cruise, and he just got a girlfriend. i have no intentions of breaking them up at all. it's only normal to move on, we live far away and can't be together. do you think he really liked me a lot? or do you think he was using me? and if you think he was using me..can you please tell me why
p.s. i never gave him head or anything at all and why would he write back to me if he really didn't want anything to do with me? or why would he even talk to me after the cruise?
2007-01-10 05:32:31 · 17 answers · asked by lucy aaaaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like this guy really did and probably still does care about you, it's just like you said though you 2 live far apart from each other and long distance relationships are hard to actually make work out. Just because he moved on and has a new girlfriend doesn't mean that he didn't care about you. I think that maybe since you are going to college where he is then you 2 might hook back up but if you don't then don't be too upset because that just means he has a girlfriend he really does care about and he can't just break her heart because he cares about you to. It is seriously a hard situation trust me I know how it feels. Well I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-10 05:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by always_confused15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ... its a long and a tricky situation that you are stuck with nontheless its not difficult to see from a third person perspective ... i see it this way ... "FATAL ATTRACTION" .... just a spurr of moment can make you do a lot of things .... He wants to tell you everything about him , his sensitive side his insensitive side, the likes /dislikes ... basically everything to get close to you....plus you dont really know a person till you see their daily habits , their outlook towards life , their reactions when they are under pressure, the basic amenities of a relationship obviously killing the physical distance between the two of you ...
The fact that he has been sleeping with you can be interpreted in many ways , but it holds good till both the partners of a relationship are comfortable with what they are doing ....
Anyways, I feel that he likes you ... a lot ... and he's trying to get close as possible .... but he would not like to be committed to you for the very simple reason that he's moved on .... he's got a GF ... which i think you guys would have obviously talked about ... But the real Question here is .... have u moved on ? did u feel attracted towards any other guy while you were with him ?
If your love's strong ... i guess distance is no bounds ... although you guys were not given enuff justice in the relationship owning to the physical separation ... that is why there was no time for you guys to get close but ya ... i could cook up a hundred reason to why it was not possible ... but the only reason that matter's is love ... if its there , its there .... if its not ... then ....... you knw wht to do ....
:) ... take care kiddo ...
2007-01-10 05:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by shukan i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, some guys will talk to a girl and "try to be friends" to soften the blow of the fact that they have no intention being with you. Here, however that is not the case. He was interested in you but realized that a relationship couldn't materialize because you guys lived so far away.
It may also be a case of a fling. You know what that entails. Fleeting interest and fun.
Don't contact this guy for a while, let him see that you aren't chasing after him. Leave the ball in his court, guys like to chase girls, sometimes they lose interest if a girl puts all the effort in.
2007-01-10 05:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad 4 u, but you are right move on ! I think at that moment he wanted to hang with you,but he is not the long distant relationship type. He lives 4 the hear and now. Use it as a life lesson.Respect you re self a little Moore. Good luck
2007-01-10 05:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by danceteacher5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he was interested in you but, realize that you both live to far apart. Now what kind of best friend is that (when she lies about what your doing) Keep him as a friend and maybe when you go to collage you both can be with each other again. If his girlfriend now is not with him anymore. Because he sound like he did like you. But, if it doesn't work out. Move on and just be friends.
P.S. None of us are him. So we can't tell you what he thinks! You would need to ask him.
Good luck
2007-01-10 05:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 23:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he did have some interest in you. I bet that maybe had you lived closer together it may have escalated into a relationship. Maybe he just realized that it would not work out with the distance. From what you described you make him seem like he was interested in you. I don't think he was using you atleast by what you describe, but I could be wrong.
2007-01-10 05:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was too long for a question, but i read the whole thing....
i think he did like you and was interested in you, but long distance relationships are very hard and frustrating. he probably has trust issues and just didn't want to get involved with someone so many miles away. maybe when you move to his town things will be different...
2007-01-10 05:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by k. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cruise is like a fantasy situation. When he got back to reality it was over. He used you. Get used to it. Happens all the time.
2007-01-10 05:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....he may not have been using you at all...I'm sure he really liked you..however after some time had passed..he may have meet someone else.
My guess is... if you meet again, that you guys would pick up right where you left off.
I find guys.... find it easier to get over their feelings more than girls do...and they don't keep strings attached.
Too bad.... it sounded like you two had something there....
But if it was meant to be...it was meant to be...you guys may meet again someday, or you'll find your soul mate with someone else!!
Your Lucky to have experienced what you had....
2007-01-10 05:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋