me and this guy met on a cruise. we hung out since day one, but i never really noticed him until the 4th night. the 4th night we hung out the whole entire night just me and him talking about everything. and then he made it a point to make sure we were hanging out the next night. by the end of the 4th night we had layed together, and hooked up as well. he slept over that night, and the next night we hung out again. at one point he was in the casino, and my friend went to the casino and asked him to come hang out with us. sure enough, he came within 10 minutes and we hung out. me and him went to his room to be alone and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening in the moment. it was great, but he didn't talk much. after we had sex we walked to my room, and he was about to come in but his cousin walked past us, and asked if we wanted to go to the casino. so we went to the casino, and then i left to go lay down. he told me he'd come back, and he did to sleepover. the next night he came looking for me but my friend told him i was with another guy (which i wasn't). he supposedly got upset and didn't hang out with me the next two nights. i told him that i wasn't with another guy and everything got cleared up, and we hung out again. the whole entire night, me, him, and my best friend hung out. then my friend left with some guy, and me and this guy ended up hooking up again, and everything led to sex again happening in the moment. this time he talked a lot more, and he told me he wanted to do it with me for a long time. he constantly asked me if i was alright, and we acted like a couple, having a cute relationship. the next night we hung out the whole night and kissed goodbye. after the cruise he messaged me right away on myspace, and we kept messaging eachother back and forth until about october. i had visited him and he acted the same exact way he did on the cruise and he kissed me goodbye on the lips and everything. when i stepped outside for a minute, some guy even asked this guy where his girlfriend went. haha. at one point i thought this guy had been avoiding me because the computer does crazy things, so i messaged him and i was like..if you don't want anything to do with me..please don't write back..but he did write back explaining how of course we're still friends and he doesn't have a girlfriend. i happen to be going to college where he lives in august which was planned before i even met him. but now it's been 5 months after the cruise, and he just got a girlfriend. i have no intentions of breaking them up at all. it's only normal to move on, we live far away and can't be together. do you think he really liked me a lot? or do you think he was using me? and if you think he was using me..can you please tell me why
p.s. i never gave him head or anything at all and why would he write back to me if he really didn't want anything to do with me? or why would he even talk to me after the cruise?
2007-01-10 05:30:34 · 12 answers · asked by lindsay m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. He really liked you a lot. What you had was chemestry and what every single person looks for on a cruise. It's almost part of the cruise. lol Don't worry about getting back together. It was a good time while it lasted.
ps - what's your myspace?
2007-01-10 05:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He was using you for sex on the cruise. That's what guys do. He called you back because he was either feeling guilty and wanted to conclude things with you, or he wants to keep you in the wings in case he wants another booty call.
Girl, don't go giving it up so easy next time! Guys like him (mind you, not all guys) like the pursuit. Once you give it up, they get bored and go on looking for the next conquest. Be more selective and find yourself a guy that actually wants a good relationship with you built on communication, not sex. (but of course, sex is fun too.. just be aware that some guys out there will tell you anything you want to hear just to get it).
I've heard it said that girls will do anything to get the guy to say "I Love You". A guy will say "I Love You" to get the girl to have sex. If you are just looking for a booty call, then do what you want. But in general, if you are looking for a great guy that respects you and loves you for the person you are, don't give up the sex too soon.
2007-01-10 13:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by nicholebeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was using you to get some on the cruise. It was probably something they all talked about before the cruise. And they can tell you anything.
He likes you and he even told you that yall were "friends". When a man tells you something like that, LISTEN! It was just casual thing.
2007-01-10 13:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he was using you but i also i think he liked you. Considering the fact that you live so far from each toher that must have caused a barried for him and he probably felt that it was best if you guys didn't hook up after the cruise. IF he moved on with aonther girl it's noraml but- why don you feel surprised? he seems like he enjoyed having free sex with you since yoy didn't even make him respect you enough to at least be his GF I would just forget about it if i were you- sounds like the grease story to me.
2007-01-10 13:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it seems to me that you are trying to think of excuses as to why he would like you......."why would he write back to me if he really didn't want anything to do with me?....... or why would he even talk to me after the cruise?
have you ever heard of being polite? i guess not!
if he really WANTED YOU, then he wouldn't have a girlfriend, he would have asked you to be in a relationship with him, even if it was long distance.
and actually, you going to college near him has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with him having a girlfriend, so you didn't even have to mention anything about breaking them up.
and just like you said, its only normal to move on, so that what he did, even though you guys never had a relationship.
you were a fling, that's it, nothing more.
you shouldn't even concern yourself with him, he doesn't want you, or else YOU would be his girlfriend, not the other girl!
2007-01-10 13:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did like you and had intentions on you being his girlfriend but, I don't think he used you on the cruise. Him finding someone else after the cruise if kind of a trip in itself but, we can't help who we meet.
2007-01-10 13:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! very interesting story! well i think maybe he did like u and maybe he was being real when u guys hooked up on the cruise but like u said, maybe he thought that a long distance relationship wasnt gonna work out so he just settled for something local. so i suggest u just try n move on and maybe keep the door open incase things dont work out with his g/f. u never know.
2007-01-10 13:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess it was just and adventure and if u don`t feel anything for him you can continue with your life and just remember the good moments u had.
if your meant 2 b 2gether the time will bring him back 2 u and then u can have a serioues relationship.
2007-01-10 13:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by CHIKA 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
...from my point of view he didn't just like you he liked you and alot!!!because you said your self,why would he even talk to you after the cruise if didn't want something with you...but youre right you have to move on adn i believe you did but i sugest that you always remember him...memories last forever...
2007-01-10 13:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kety 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hope you played it safe with him. Anyway its hard to tell what he was doing. It sounds like he liked you. but when you don't live in the same town its hard. move on it sounds like you are young. Go have fun with your life. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-01-10 13:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋