I have a 14 year old son from a previous marraige. His biological father left when he was 6 months old and my current husband is "Dad". I was pretty young when I had him (barely 20). I feel ready to have another but I'm afraid I've waited too long. (I'm still only in my mid 30's and I have a major case of baby fever!) I'm healthy enough (already talked with the doctor).
2007-01-10 05:20:07 · 19 answers · asked by migrainegirl1 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I too went through this, and decided the answer was NO. My boys (ages 16 and 14) weren't "thrilled" with the idea of me having a baby, but my doctor explained to me that most of that comes from them not wanting to imagine their mother having sex....LOL.
Four weeks ago, I had their baby sister, and it's been a great learning lesson for them....not only are they in no hurry for a baby of their own....but it has opened up new conversations between us. They want to know if I did "this, that and the other thing" that they see me do with her, with them. They gladly point out areas where they think I've "messed up" in raising them, and it's been a great opportunity for me to explain to them that no one is perfect, even parents.
I'm 34, if age has anything to do with it, and my son's are from my previous (1st) marriage. Funny thing is, me having a baby is more "weird" for their dad and I than it is for anyone else. I never considered that I'd have children with anyone but him (we were married 16 years) but things change, I'm remarried, and happier than I've ever been.
Having a child in your mid-30's, when you're stable in life, in a loving relationship, is a wonderful experience, and I highly recommend it!
2007-01-10 05:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14-15 years is definitely not too long. I was 20 when my mom had her second child with my step-father. I am happy that she did because I now have a little brother, and is so much fun to have around and brings happiness to us all. My parents informed me that they were going to try to have a baby, and I have to admit I was not too fond about the situation at first. It took some time, but I became quite excited after my mom became pregnant. Give your son time, for he may be the same way I was at first. It will be a big change for everyone. Who knows, maybe he will be excited right off the bat. Anyway, if you have baby fever and are ready to have another, there's only one way to cure it! Good luck! You have not waited to long. Go for it.
2007-01-10 05:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by feathervette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 23:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur doctor has given u the green signal.if ur hubby is ready why do u need 2 wait? age isnt the actual bar.talk 2 ur son and probably try to tell him that u plan 2 go in for another baby.involve him so he doesnt feel left out.good luck.
2007-01-10 05:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by nishap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead. As long as you are healthy you are still young to have another baby. If you both agreed on having a baby then go for it. Good Luck!
2007-01-10 05:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. I did after 11 years and have no regrets, If fact, we're currently trying for ANOTHER one so our baby will have a sibling a little closer to her than her big brother, who will be off to college in 5 years. They ADORE each other, and he is such a huge help when I need him to be. It has been a wonderful experience. I highly recommend it!
2007-01-10 05:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your case it's not too long, if your children are from different fathers, that's fine. They probably won't play together too much, but your older one will be able to fully help you with the baby, which is great!
Go for it, and good luck!
2007-01-10 05:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by DM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are11 years between my two boys. While it feels like I have 2 only children (they are SO different), I would say that if your doctor has givin you the go ahead health wise, go for it! I turned 33 right after my youngest was born, if that helps any.
2007-01-10 05:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by mom2rptl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is for me but if you are comfortable with it go ahead. My son is 10 and he is my only child. I wanted to have three but bad experience with the dad made me change my mind. I like being pregnant and I dont mind children, its babies I dont like. If there is a way for me to get pregnant, then have a five year old child, I'm all for it!
2007-01-10 05:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A BABY AND THINK THAT YOU CAN DO IT, GO FOR IT. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT SOME MAY NOT WANT KIDS THAT FAR APART BUT ITS UP TO YOU. MY DADS WIFE HAS A DAUGHTER THAT IS 19 AND A SON THAT JUST TURNED 6. BUT MYSELF, I LIKE TO HAVE KIDS AROUND 2 YEARS APART. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE A DAUGHTER THAT IS 16 MONTHS OLD AND WE ARE TRYING FOR ANOTHER BABY. HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT IT? IF HE WANTS ONE TOO GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-10 05:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋