My 7 year old girl is a drama queen!?

Question

My little girl is just a nightmare when the drama kicks in, she will not admit anything is her fault, and even little things is a big deal. It's like she's two again! How do I get this to stop? She also is very bossy and won't let the other kids join in on the "planning" of playing. HELP!

Answer 1

Who says that that behaviour is just a girls behaviour. My son can be the same way. The child is trying to colntrol EVERYTHING. Timeouts for me never work.. What has worked is giving my son more resposiblity and then rewarding him with something that he can pick so he feels he has control.., like what we are doing for family time on the weekends, or what movie we will see, or even allowing him to try a little further on the boundries and give him the ability to prove to us he can contol himself and be back from a friends house on time.

Answer 2

Sit her down and tell her that acting as she does is not the way to be, and tell her that if she continues to act this way, certain things will be taken away. You can also start giving her more responsibility around the house. Seven is old enough to have responsibility, like cleaning off the table every night or keeping her room clean. Make sure she does what she is suppose to. If she doesn't, you take away something she likes, maybe a fave toy or TV program. Do that also when she's playing with other kids and she is trying to boss them all. Take her out of the play situation, tell her why and not allow her back in for a while. When she sees the other kids having fun without her she will want to play right and not be so bossy. You may have to do this more than a few times, but it works, believe me.

Answer 3

If you haven't spanked her before you'd better start. DO it now before it's to late. Lying would get any of my girls a spanking. You and her father, need to make a set of rules with her, have her even suggest them (such as no lying, steeling, being bossy...) then assign a punishment for each. That way when she chooses to break one you can explain she actually chose the consequence. Steeling and Lying needs to be addressed with a spanking. Being bossy, you can try time outs, maybe longer time outs, taking toys away, or if those don't work, a spanking.

Also when I mention spanking, it's exactly that. These days people call a quick swat or two to the bottom a spanking, not us. Like the old days, pants come down, they go over our lap, and we give a good old fashioned spanking. There has to be a good deterrent for preventing this kind of behavior. If the other methods fail, nothing works better then a old fashioned spanking.

Good Luck

Answer 4

You're not the only one with a girl that way! (I can completely relate!) What position is her borth order? This may sound like hogwash, but if she's the youngest it may be because she knows it, and wants to make an impact on the family, since "everything has already been done before her". I felt that way when I was a child, and the youngest, and I can see that same attitude in my youngest drama-queen daughter.

Answer 5

Be the parent..you can be her friend when she's 25....when you see objective behavior, you have to nip-it-in-the-bud...take away favorite things and tell her she may have them back when she can show she can behave...be firm, be consistant (THE most important), and never give her lots of options on things (like dinner for example...two choices..max..kids get overloaded and can't reason through more than two choices at a time)...when she realizes that you will not reward bad behavior and there are consequences each time (here you have to be consistant again) she will eventually learn acceptable behavior...she is not born knowing the right things..you have to teach her..by example and consitancy...Good luck!

Answer 6

Talk to her about this. Tell her what you expect her to do when problems arise, and practice with her how you want her to react. Don't respond to her when she does this. Just continue on with what you were doing. Reward her when she shares, deals with problems appropriately, and acts polite. Tell her that if she doesn't learn to get along with others better, her friends will stop playing with her.

Then consider that she learned this behavior from someone. If it's a family member, explain to your daughter that Aunt Susie makes too much of some problems. If it's you, then you'll have to change your own behavior too, to set a better example for your daughter.

Answer 7

My 7 year old daughter is the same way. She is almost 8 and it is getting better. I just had to keep reminding her that nobody will want to play with her if she is being rude and bossy. Good luck.

Answer 8

that is the joy of having a girl. When you hear her acting lik ethat pull her aside and tell her. Maybe if her friends stop palying with her, she will get the hint.
Do you punish her for her behavior? Take away a play date, tv time, etc or something she really really likes. Your the parent-take control. If you don't punish her, she will keep doing it.

Answer 9

Wow, sounds like you have a normal seven year old on your hands. I agree with the others about time outs. You need to teach her responibility for her actions or trust me it's going to get worse.

Answer 10

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