he whants a big one and so do i but i want haiwii and every thing but he whants here in Ga and i dont i whant fun things but he said not to much fun. i dont know what to do any more with him.
2007-01-10 05:00:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Fun things??? Like what?
The wedding is both of yours so you need to learn the fine art of compromise. SIt down together & draw up a list of things that are truly important to each of you; things you MUST have to make this meaniful to you and work from there.
I realize that when spending money on pictures, dress, the reception, it's easy to focus on those things that are the most expensive. Think about the ceremony as well. The fact that you are vowing to this special person should be the focus of that day.
2007-01-10 05:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What fun things can you do in Hawaii but not in Ga? I'm in Ga and there are plenty of gorgeous places to get married and some fun things to do before and after. How about, get married in Ga and honeymoon in Hawaii?
2007-01-10 16:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depedns what state you live in- no matter where you get married think of how much it will cost you and how far your relatives will have to go jsut to seee you walk down the iisle. Depends on your budget- i'd google different hotels and resorts to get an idea of what you can get and for how much for now.
2007-01-10 13:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married in so carolina on a beach very romantic isle of the palms
2007-01-10 13:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then think about why you are going to get married to him. If you are still having a problem with it then do both. Go to Hawaii with him and then have a huge party when you get home.
2007-01-10 13:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by sigkappsunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like you are too far into the wedding preparations and you are already fighting?? Like those before me have said, the very first thing you need to learn and really understand & accept about marriage is that it is a life time of give and take. You must learn the art of Compromise. A clever woman learns very early on that not every battle is worth fighting. If you are more compromising anf flexible and REASONABLE about issues that do not really matter or are of far less importance, then when something is REALY important to you, you stand a far better chance of having him see it your way.
You sound young, and you do not mention your age? I am curious to know how old you are, how long you and your fiance have been together , how long you have been actually engaged?
The first thing you need to do is sit down and work up you budget, right down to the dollar and determine who will be paying for what expenses. Is this the first wedding for both? If so are you going the traditional route, whereby the brides family is paying for the wedding, the grooms family paying for the rehersal dinner, etc? Are the two of you contributing to the cost? Are you footing the entire bill yourselves? Once you determine how much oyu have to spend then you categorize how much (what portion of the whole enchilada) you want to spend on each part , how much for the wedding site, travel, your dress, flowers, photographer, videographer, catering? food expense varies so much. Will you be having a sit down dinner following an after 6:00 pm wedding? buffet? afternoon wedding? what kind of reception do you envision? Elegantly decorated, lavished in flowers $$$$$$$, favors for the guest, invitations, transportation for the out of town guest and the wedding party, are you having a large wedding party or just a maid or matron of honor & a best man? How many guest are you planning to invite? will you be having open bar all night or will you have cocktail hour before dinner, then wine with dinner? Champagne with desesrt and for toast. What about the size and amount of $$for the cake? will there be a groom's cake? Don't forget gifts for you attendants? will you be paying travel expenses for out of town guest?
Now you mentioned Hawaii, which I have to agree is lovely.Are you referring to a destination wedding where just the two of you fly to hawaii get married/ honeymoon and then return home? If that is your idea of Hawaii & "the fun stuff" then I agree with the other person , get married in a secluded, romantic, private ceremony in hawaii and send out your announcements so they will arrive they day you leave & surprise everyone. Plan a large reception for the week after you return from your honeymoon so that you and the groom can mingle (just like a wedding reception) you can even wear a wedding dress, with all of your family & freinds who want to be a part of your celebration. back to cost, dont forget entertaintment, band? DJ? rentals like table, chairs, the list is so long, once you really start planning oyu will be overwhelmed with all the exppenses involved. Is your idea to have an actual wedding in Hawaii where you family & friends all fly to hawaii? This can be be very cost probibative on many people who want to be a part of oyur wedding day, and is also especially troublesome for elder relatives, those with small children etc.
"what isthe fun stuff you refer to?" i am really curious?
Why not pick a place other than Hawaii, which just happens to be probably the msot expensive place in the US to have a destiantion wedding? You said that you fiance (actually you don't even refer to him as your fiance, which is so very odd), however you mention that he wants to get married in Georgia, do you mean right here as in "in this little town where we live?" or is anywhere in Georgia fine with him, b/c msot family and friends could then make the trip?
Savanah Georgia is a beautiful place for a wedding.
I read an asnwer from another perosn to another question and the recommendation was St. Simon Island Ga. Try that, it looks awesome
One other idea. My freind and her husband managed to pull this off 10 years ago. It was his 3rd marriage, her first and she did not want her family to know he had been married before. While they were awaiting special approval from the bishop of the episcopal church to see if he was going to allow them to marry in his family's church in Charleston, the couple were on apre honeymoon trip in the Bahamas. They got this bug up thei butts and they jsut did it right then and there. They had the resort pull together a lovely private wedding on the beach, ot was casual, but elagant, very inexpensive event hough they had the best the resort had to offer b/c it was jus tfor a party of 2. when they returned and learned that the bishop declined to allow them to Marry in the Cathederal, they told their families they wanted to do somethihng differendt and they planned a beautiful outdoor wedding in Charleston, where horse drrawn carriages took all of the guest to the most breathtaking park by the water I have ever seen. It was perfect, right down to the cobblestone streets. The receptiion was then held in an upscale trendy restuarant with three different bands, one on each floor. They could splurge b/c they had saved money on so many other things. When they said "I do" Only the two of them and me (the matron of honor & his brother , a groomsman knew that they already DID, they were jsut going through the motions, for the sake of the family who would have been devistated to have missed the "ACTUAL WEDDING" so rather than tell everyone that they went away to get married and would have a big reception when they got back, they jsut had a renewal of their vows , so to speak. to this day, my friends parents ahve no idea that the day their youngest child, only daughter got married, she had actually already been leagallymarried to her groom for over 8 months. They were both so relaxed duirng all of the wedding preparations and the actual wedding, everyone thought they must be so comfortable with each other, so in tune, so on love, b/c they are just so calm and happy.
Try that one
2007-01-10 14:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by dreamwhip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK- first off, how old are you.
Perhaps you should start a budget and decided from there but it's just sounds like you a both just playing around.
2007-01-10 13:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to learn how to compromise. If you can't even pull together for a wedding how will you ever manage a marriage?
2007-01-10 13:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride gets to choose the wedding.
2007-01-10 13:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Justice of the Peace and get it over with.
2007-01-10 13:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋