He says I knew he looked at this stuff but he told me all he was looking at was the dirty cartoons. Now I find he's checking out all the porno stuff and all kinds of naked women. I understand men do these things but when he's been locked in a room looking at this stuff and IMing women then comes to our bed wanting sex I feel dirty. Is this wrong? I love him but I can't feel comfortable and or sexy this way. Is this wrong of me? I feel ugly and useless because I'm not getting any younger. I don't think I'm ugly but I don't look like those sexy hot momas on the net. Someone please give me some advice. I tried talking to him but he doesn't seem to listen.
2007-01-10 04:50:29 · 5 answers · asked by rose v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have every right to dislike that. He shouldn't be off getting turned on by other women then expect you to do for him what he wants from them. Even if you aren't getting any younger, you're never to young to date or find new people. Sex is a necessary part of any healthy relationship, without physical wants or if there are wants that don't work for both sides, then it's not going to work. You may want to find someone else if he isn't going to listen to you or even try to attempt to change. It never hurts to try and talk to him again though, if you really love him that is.
2007-01-10 04:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a porn addicition...an a serious respect problem for you and your relationship. If this is something you both don't agree upon and it is something he is doing without consideration for your feelings, then give him the ultimatum...no more or you're thru. If he refuses (which I beleive he will, because men with this problem seldom want to get over it), then move on with your life. You deserve better! My last boyfirend watched a lot of porn and I felt the same way...dirty, put-down, unappreciated, etc...Four years after I left him, I married my husband. He is so attentive, respectful and loving...I never have to worry about him getting involved in porn...he won't even watch Victoria Secret commercials out of respect for me. Now the closest thing to porn in my relationship are the sexy pictures he took of me so he could look at them whenever we are apart.
Hold out for a man who loves and admires you and only you!
2007-01-10 04:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right that it is normal . . . to a point. But I was in your shoes once . . . I ended it. Granted, I don't look like those women either . . .but he was no Johnny Depp either!!!! I let the porn go for awhile . .but when the IMing started . .it was OVER. Porn can be an addiction just like any drug. If he can't understand how that makes you feel unattractive and how bad it hurts you . . it's up to you to decide if you are willing to put up with that or not. My advice would be to move on.
2007-01-10 04:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between porn and Internet sex. Internet sex is cheating, plain and simple. It's have sex, whether the person is there or not, with another person. He needs to grow up and you need to find a real man who is worth your time.
2007-01-10 04:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just using you!!!! You need to let him go...then he will realize he had a good thing in his life...
2007-01-10 04:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by lyssa a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋