I already bought the darn bridesmaid dress and the bride and I had a falling out. I want the $130 back and I have to be graceful as the bride is my boyfriend's cousin. Help!
2007-01-10 04:45:49 · 11 answers · asked by JTJC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would take the $130 hit and beg out as gracefully as possible. No sense in being in a wedding of a person you are no longer friends with, even if they are your boyfriend's cousin. Just be polite about it and it should be manageable. I am sure there will be some awkwardness, but don't ask for the money back. THAT will surely make things much, much worse!
2007-01-10 04:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandriagal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't worry about getting the $130 back for the dress, unless she can replace you with someone who is a similar size. Even if she doesn't offer to pay you, let her use the dress. Anyway, you may graciously tell her that weddings are a time for joy and due to the problem you guys have with each other, maybe it would be better if you watched with the other wedding guests instead of participating in the wedding. Whatever happens though, please be mature about this matter!! Just think, if you marry her cousin, you don't want to give her a reason to act petty!
2007-01-10 04:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be forthright and honest with this person seeing as the issue also involves a your boyfriend who is HER family member. I would tell them that because of the issues that brought on the falling out.. that you would not feel comfortable being in the wedding party. As for the dress... well.. when you said yes to being in the bridal party.. you commited to do so. By backing out because of these issues does not mean you should be reimbursed for the dress. That would cause just one more thing for there to be a battle about. I would just back out graciously and then put the dress in a consignment shop or on ebay and be done with the whole issue.
Sometimes it takes a bigger person to walkaway then to stay and fight.
2007-01-10 05:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by aurora1963_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) tell the truth - tell her and your bf that you feel uncomfortable being in the wedding due to the falling out. Tell her that you would like to be reimbursed for the dress as much as she can but you understand that this is last minute.
B) Fake a stomachache and sell the dress at your local bride shop or ebay.
2007-01-10 04:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Laynee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get your $130 back. Since YOU are the one making the decision to leave the bridal party, YOU are one who has to shoulder the cost.
You can't use money as the excuse, since the dress is paid for. Basically, I don't think there's a graceful "lie" you can use to tell her why you don't want to be a bridesmaid anymore.
2007-01-10 05:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's easy for you to tell the bride that you don't want to attend the wedding. The problem now lies in the fact that you want your money back. Well, I actually wouldn't know how to handle that since in our culture, the bridesmaids never pay for their gowns. Well, I guess you could ask your boyfriend to help you with your situation.
2007-01-10 04:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by ponder2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can get the $130 back but I do know that since she asked you to be in the wedding, she obviously wants you to be with her on her special day. Sorry if this doesn't help much!
2007-01-10 04:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll get your money back, but I would be honest with her and tell her that due to your strained relationship (with her), it might be best for you not to participate in her wedding. Just take the $130 loss and go with it.
2007-01-10 05:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just suck it up and do it.... You already spend all the money on the dress. For the wedding gift, just give her a card and no money to recoup the cost of the dress.
If you try and sell the dress- your only going to get like $20.00
2007-01-10 04:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is also upset with you, just ask her (through him) if she still wants you to be in the wedding. If she says yes, suck it up and be nice. And DO NOT put your fingers behind her head to give her horns in all her pictures!
2007-01-10 04:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋