I'm 17. I've been with my boyfriend 5 months, but my parents are making my life hell.
About 4/7 days, I'll be abused. Mentally or physically. I go to my boyfriends whenever I can, which is usually twice a week.
I'll do something MINOR wrong, at times I've been told to do it, at times it's making a mountain out of a molehill - Not just in my view, other times it's going around random things to shout at me for & at times, yes, I admit, it is my fault.
I have college, exams, I TRY to do work, but I can't, I'm so stressed/being shouted at/barred from the computer. I get stopped from doing simple little things.
My boyfriend dislikes my parents for how they are, and vice versa.
His parents know the situation I'm in, & he's often asking me to move in with him & his parents
I'm worried his parents mightn't like me, I'd get in the way, I'd be completely reliant on them, I have no income, he'd grow tired of me or argue with me would be worse, I know I wouldn't be allowed back home.
Any advice?
2007-01-10 04:36:46 · 5 answers · asked by cigolon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to his parents about all this. If you guys break up, then what will you do?
If his parents are ok with this, then you make your own arrangements with them, completely separate from him. That's the adult thing to do.
Best wishes and keep studying hard--you're going to make it!
2007-01-10 04:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady if your being abused by your parents that's against the law.You aren't 18 yet so therfore they are liable for you.Talk to department of social services first and wouldn't advise you to live with your boyfriend ither.Talk to some body at the college about a Grant of some sort for money in the meantime try to find a safe haven to live.You can't concentrate on school and have all that drama in your life.Get some help..
2007-01-10 12:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fix your internal problem with your parents. moving out with your boyfriend is not the solution. you just going to make it worse knowing that yoour parent dislike him. you just going to get him involve in your own problem. and soon things will get even worse where his parent think that they should get involve too. in the end you ruin everything. not to mention what if you brake up with him because he didn't want to get involve. you end up getting hurt, you hurt your boyfriend and all messed up.
find a way how to fix your problem. since you still under age then go to your local social service, ask them to help you out. if you embarras to do it then go to any family member whom your parents will listen to.
in the meantime you try to focus on your study and if possible get yourself a job so when you think you are ready to move on then leave the house. life can be very tough but you have to learn to be a survivor not a victim. i know you can do it so give it a try and best of luck for you...!
cheers...!
2007-01-10 14:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by daniiisme!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think moving to your bf's house is the answer because you already realize that you will be completely dependent on them. There are some genuine ppl out here but how long will you be able to depend on them, esp. financially.
Try to stick it out. I know that it will be hard but at least you can go over to your bf's house to study, relax, etc.
Soon you will be out of school and able to find a job to move out or at least be financially independent.
2007-01-10 12:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents can sometinmes be really annoying but they love you really-even if they don't show it all the time-and they'd be really upset if you moved out
2007-01-10 12:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by loopyloo5 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋