If marriage is already planned on and all that, what do you think are the pros and cons of living together before the wedding?
Please no religious nuts. I want the opinon of people who actually have their own thoughts about it, not the churches.
2007-01-10 04:30:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't agree with it, but sometimes circumstances make it necessary. There is something special about getting married, then planning a move and house together. If you are ready, why not just get married? You could go to a justice of the peace, then have the big ceremony for the family when it was already planned -Just my opinion.
Good luck.
2007-01-10 04:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general, since I don't know your specific situation:
Pros: get to know each other even better, find out the other person's corks and annoying habits ahead of time (see if can work it out), compatability (some people can date but not live together), figure out the furniture and living arrangements and some of the paperwork during a less chaotic time
Cons: religious reasons, difficult to surprise with much of anything, if move in while planning wedding...might be too much to do all at once, everyone needs some time apart and may not get enough
Well, that is all I can think of right now but I am sure there are others.
2007-01-10 04:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really can't think of any cons to it, but as for pros I think it is great to live with the person you are engaged to for the simply fact that you never get to know someone until you live with them. You get to test the marriage life eaters, before you jump in sorta speak, because if you are a clean freak and he's not that could become a problem down the road; you'll get to see what may ruin you marriage down the road and what you all need to repair prior to the marriage. You get to see how he is at his best and at his worst or as some may say the REAL him, because HOME is where the real you lies!!!!!
2007-01-10 04:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Monique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pros and cons of living together before a marriage.
Pros:
You get to be with each other everyday.
You eat together.
Have sex together.
Get to know each others good habits.
Cons:
You could be spending time with your friends.
Most people wait to have sex after the marriage.
You get to know each others bad habits.
My advice, you will be living with each other soon enough. Wait till you get married. Its fresh and new that way. It's traditional. Something you will remember. Sounds like you might be worried about what each other is doing. If you are to be married, then build up the trust the right way. Best Wishes!
2007-01-10 04:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cons would be if you are concerned that you will have sex before marriage if you don't want to. Living together so closely would make a lot of opportunities for that to come up.
The pros would be the fact that you get to see how this person reacts day in and day out. You will get to know them when they are unable to hide that they are having a bad day or that they aren't in the mood to be smothered. You will learn to live with each other and deal with each others quirks before you commit to being married for a lifetime.
2007-01-10 04:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get to know each other deeper so you will be sure if the wedding is the best for you. You will get used to this situation so it won't be difficult after the marriage (it would be the same mre or less).The only disadvantage which is quite unimportant is that leaving together will remove the magic feeling after the wedding because you will know him already and it won't be a mystery at your co-habitation.Think about it!
2007-01-10 04:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that some pros would be that you would get to know the person better and get to know their personality. you would get to know how they live and so on. I think that that would be a good way to see if you two are really meant to be together. find out how that person is on a daily basis and learn to see their true colors weather or not that is a good thing is up to you.it would let you see how well you actually get along. I think that the best advise i could give you is to follow your heart and do what you think is best.. I wish you the best of luck....
2007-01-10 04:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the good thing about living with someone before getting married is that you get to know them better. You find out how they sleep or what they do during the day and just little habits that they have. Some of theses things you may want to know before you get married and this can help you confirm that this is the person you want to be with.
2007-01-10 04:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pros are you get to know how this person really lives and you have the opprotunity to spend more time together. the cons are you can grow very tired of this person and they might have some qualities that you didnt see before the engagement.
2007-01-10 04:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by chestlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pro is that you get to see how they are on a day to day basis. And the con is that they might not marry you after living with you and also you might not want to marry them either.
2007-01-10 04:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋