I am: 30 years old - from Lebanon AND my friend is: 38 - from UK. And we do have different religion but we do like each other. But He wants to jump to a physical relation without really improving other sides in that relation like our love & friendship ….
I tried to stop this relation but it is not working will I am really afraid that he will pull me to x and that is not allowed in our family.
What to do I know he have no problem for it and he is putting too much effort on that “does not seems respecting much our traditions”
2007-01-10 04:22:56 · 22 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For me,any relationship is a responsiblity in the first place,if he cannot accept your traditions,and your respect to your family and beliefs,then he doesn’t worth your love.If someone loves you,he should love you as you are,of course,there must be some diffirences between you and him, and this is necessary in every relationship to break boredom,but also those diffirences must not be essential,like religion and not accepting your family’s traditions.If this guy puts sex no.1in your relationship,then you should know he doesn’t look to your personality and mentality,may be he sees you as a beautiful woman only....
My opinion is to ask him determinely if he wants you as you are,and you won’t leave an essential part of your life(your beliefs,and family traditions),if if he was still hesitated and doesn’t know the answer,then know he doesn’t really love you,put wants other things from you,if the answer is that he will wait and appreciate your opinion then do not leave him...
Lee,you should know the answer quickly,do not delay the matter,coz as much as you delay it,it will be harder on your heart.
I think also you should tell your mom,or your dad,coz they sure want you to be happy...
I wish you the best of luck....
2007-01-10 12:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having different religious backgrounds may not seem a problem. However, especially when you start ot have children, it becomes a real issue. THere are some that can overcome this passionate difference between two people; however, statistics are against it. I say move on, I'm sure there are many in your own faith that would have the thigns this guy has, plus the added bonus of mutual respect for your passions about your religion.
2007-01-10 12:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by BelievesInGod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who tries to separate you from your standards and moral beliefs is only thinking of themselves and has no respect for you.
Someone who has no respect for you does not truly love you, for love always puts the other person first in respect and honor. If you have x with him he will treat you like a used product and will then never respect you. I have seen this happen many times.
You two are in love with the idea with the idea of love, but true love does not demand or require sex to be verified.
2007-01-10 12:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's more interested in what's in your panties than what's inside you as a person. You obviously don't know each other, so that's what he should be interested in. Getting to know you as a person.
Get someone who's willing to move slowly and cares enough about your beliefs to go along with them. He's more worried about what he can get from you than what bad may come from it.
Move on to someone else who has the same beliefs as you. That will certainly get rid of this conflict.
2007-01-10 12:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should never have sex until YOU feel comfortable and ready to have sex. If you aren't ready because of your family or traditions then he needs to respect that.
That said, as a word of caution, if you are still worried about what your parents will think of you and you're 30 years old, you might want to seek some counseling to make certain that you're not unhealthily concerned about their opinion. You want to make certain that you're doing what YOU want, not what they want, or what he wants.
2007-01-10 12:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect your traditions, then you shouldn't stay with him. You should never jump into a physical relationship. Especially not if you're doing it just to please him. If he truly loves you, then he will respect your beliefs. Follow your heart but listen to your head. Tell him how you feel.
2007-01-10 12:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Link 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See - this is what religion does to you. 30 years old and you have the social/sexual maturity of a child. SHAME, really.
He wants nothing more than to get down your forbidden panties. Leave him. Find someone of your own faith so you wont have so many problems - and they will be as immature as you are.
2007-01-10 12:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My first love was definitely the wrong choice. He pressured me into what your guy is trying to pressure you into, and it took me a long time to get over that and not simply think that men were pigs and evil and would only want me for that.
DUMP HIM. I don't know how to say that clearer.
)O(
2007-01-10 12:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by thelittlemerriemaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please value yourself so much that you will never do anything that would lessen your self-respect. Make your choices based upon that self-respect - and insist that your partner respect your choices.
You choose the way that others will treat you - that is your right. If you need help from your family and/or friends, please ask for it. You need not face this alone.
If you do not have his respect, he really has nothing of value to share with you.
2007-01-10 12:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by MomBear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋