With tears hitting the keyboard, and my brain hurting from anger and self-pity, I am at the point of total loss. My 15 yr. old moved 2 states back from her dads 35 hours ago. agreed to follow simple house rules, and just be nice to her family, and in return respect would be returned. Where peace once lived it has moved on. Rules, respect, and common sense have all been broken by her since returning. No she was not abused, nor deprived, but yes I admit I have given too much to her growing up, but did so seeing all the hard work and pride she had in herself. She has been given the attention, and nurtering. Why can she not see that I love her. I would give her my last breath of air that come from my lungs if it would mean her being happy, and living right. Why can she not talk in a low voice as she does to her friends. Our rules her are nothing out of ordinary. Why does she hate her life and feel we are all out to get her. Give me a word, something to heal us both. My heart is crushed.
2007-01-10 04:19:11 · 9 answers · asked by FANNY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is a teenager at her rebel age every teen goes thru this type of thing these days some worse then others
she hates life b/c shes a teenager thats wants to have a free life to be able to do whatever she wants and b/c she has rules holding her back she rebels
I didn't have a real conversation with my dad until I was about 20 years old b/c we had differences and neither one of us understood each other and neither had the patients for each other we constantly fought and I hated him
she will look back when she is older and regret most of the times she has treated you badly
most likely she doesn't understand life and hasn't found herself yet
the best thing to do is ground her if she is going against your rules she will hate you but she will have to deal with it and you have to realize that she doesn't knwo what life is like and wont understand if you try to explain it to her
shes a teenager she wont understand or want to listen to you until she matures
2007-01-10 04:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very very hard to deal with......she will come around......right now things are hard because you love her soo very much. When I was 16 yrs I moved out to go live with a friend . At the time I did not want to live or see my mother, but I always knew my mother was there......yes, i did move back in when things go bad. Well, anyway.....i said all this to say this, Just make sure she knows you are there for her. That if she needs you she knows where to find you......hang in there!!!!! This to will past.
2007-01-10 12:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing fully the situation, no one can really tell you anything worthwhile to your specific circumstances. Perhaps family therapy would be beneficial, but it might also just be a waste of time for you.
Give it some time, and hopefully she'll properly adjust, and come to understand that your rules are there for a reason, and that you love her.
The only other consolation I can offer you is to keep in mind that she IS a teenager. I was angelic at that age, of course : P, but most of them are hormone-wrecked brats. She'll grow out of most of it, with good solid parenting.
Good luck.
2007-01-10 12:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something's wrong.
Has she been to see a doctor? Possible depression?
You don't say why she moved back 35 hours ago--was it sudden?
Anyway, you are not alone. Call your friends and go out tonight. OR better yet, have them come over to your house tonight. She will be starting school, if she's not in school now; perhaps you could get some advice there, where to go next.
You are not alone.
2007-01-10 12:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sisters kids are the same way. She needs to learn to EARN what she has. You need to remove the things she loves, Ipod, computer, television, dvd player... EVERYTHING. And as she behaves then she gets things back. Its going to be tough, but she NEEDS it, or else she is going to assume she can live off of other people the rest of her life, and when she cant do that, she will resort to all sorts of things to make it happen. I see girls all the time getting Pregnant because they actually think a guy will support them for life because she had his child. Dont let it get that far. TAKE CONTROL! This is what my sisters Child psychologist explained to her. I hope this helps.
2007-01-10 12:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is just a normal teenager. There is nobody but her on this earth right now, everything is unfair, she knows it all and nobody can tell her different. Just remember, you can't be her friend, she needs a mother. Keep guiding her against her protests, and one day she will realize what a jerk she's been. Like i did when i was around 19. ;) gl
2007-01-10 12:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by wickywickyjoka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They sure do bring you before God don't they? Prayer is a good thing. So, your grass was a color called peaceful and it's changing colors? Change it back because if you don't you'll be left with nothing but a dirt road :\
My Wish - Rascal Flatts
Child of Mine - Carole King
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2007-01-10 12:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did she leave her Dads ?
What was her behavior at Dads ?
She apparently has no respect for you, discipline or rules.
She is an arrogant spoiled brat.
She needs to learn that your love does not make you weak or stupid
Seperate her from her peers...
2007-01-10 12:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the answer! You had it all along! The answer is in your "NAME"! "FANNY" Spank it!!!!!!!And maybe that will teach that (ingrate brat) a lesson!
2007-01-10 12:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by ghostguff3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋